Even perfect couples sometimes quarrel. To avoid turning a quarrel into a no-holds-barred fight, avoid these phrases when you are once again clarifying relationships with a man – you will save a lot of nerves (yours).
“CALM DOWN”
Well, you know that this only makes him angrier, right? This word only emphasizes that he has lost his temper. And it does not have any calming effect.
“CAN I KISS YOU?”
If he is angry, the answer will be "no." And you definitely didn't want to hear that. This way, you can only escalate the quarrel to a new level. First, make peace – then kiss.
“AND YOUR MOM…”
“Raised you badly”/“demands too much from you”/“doesn't get along with me at all”/“get her, goat”/underline as applicable. Mentioning his mother during a quarrel is a forbidden tactic. This can make him even angrier. And in general: there's no need to involve relatives in your disputes. By the way, it's also not worth involving his exes.
“I'M SORRY, I'M SORRY, I'M SORRY”
There's no need to apologize a million times. If you feel guilty, apologize, but do it once, not 500 times. Then take a pause and give him time to calm down and "cool off." Pressuring a man during a quarrel is far from the best tactic.
“NOTHING TERRIBLE HAPPENED”
If you are arguing, then something has indeed happened. There's no need to pretend that everything is great or try to shift his attention to other things. Even if you succeed, you won't solve the problem; you'll just postpone the argument to another time. Sooner or later, an explosion will still happen. So, it's better to find out what actually happened than to try to hide your head in the sand.
“MAYBE IT'S TIME TO BREAK UP?”
Important decisions should not be made in a "hot head." Quarrels sometimes end in breakups, which both sides of the conflict will regret for a long time – both parties. Just like with kisses: first, in any case, declare a truce. If you realize that the peace has turned out to be too "thin," think about breaking up.
