Night falls, and… desire awakens. This is, of course, an optimistic scenario. If it doesn’t apply to you and sex with your partner no longer seems exciting, try playing.
What are role-playing games
In general, sexual role-playing games are an activity where two or more people take on specific roles and enact scenarios based on their sexual fantasies.
However, the word "scenario" should not be taken literally. In some cases, the game may be carefully planned in advance. In others, it’s simply improvised within a given role.
The key word here is "fantasy".
Therefore, some games may include special costumes and sexual paraphernalia, while others may not. That is, changing the usual behavior of partners during sex can already be considered a game. So this includes experiments with more aggressive behavior and even so-called dirty talk.
Why play
The first and most obvious reason is that playing brings variety to sexual life. Yes, at first, passions are boiling, and just the presence of a partner awakens burning desire. However, often over time, the heat subsides, and this beloved but already familiar being stops evoking a storm of emotions. Or sex becomes too similar and uninteresting. This is where games come in to help.
In some of them, partners seem to return to the beginning of their relationship. In this case, they usually reenact the stage of seduction. In others, they aim to gain new sensations. Here, sex toys or unusual practices related to, for example, bondage or domination and submission can come into play.
Another advantage has more of a psychological property. It’s about the fact that during the game, partners can realize their long-held sexual fantasies. This is a kind of release from obsessive ideas. The result is liberation, relief, and of course, pleasure.
And the last important bonus is strengthening relationships. First, because the fulfillment of secret desires usually becomes a couple's secret. And secrets create a sense of togetherness. Secondly, by playing with a partner, a person overcomes the temptation to seek what they desire elsewhere. In their bed, there is already a stranger, a long-time object of passion, and anyone else. Of course, with the caveat that this "anyone else" is ready for the proposed experiments.
Popular scenarios of role-playing games
The ideas presented can be a specific prompt or a starting point. Certainly, you should play only by your own rules and in your own game.
1. Meeting
The gist of the game is to recreate the first meeting: the moment of getting acquainted and seduction. You can play at home or outside. For example, "accidentally" meet on the street and continue the meeting in a hotel room (which is better to book in advance).
The roles you take on can correspond to your everyday life or differ drastically from it. Essentially, just like your appearance and the sexual plan of the evening.
2. Striptease
This relatively innocent erotic performance can very well be considered a role-playing game. Especially if the partner performing the dance truly immerses themselves in the role of a stripper and dresses in the appropriate attire.
3. Teacher / student
For one partner, it’s an opportunity to finally satisfy their desires from school and university days. For the other, it’s a way to feel like an authoritative and incredibly sexual person.
4. Heroics
Dreaming of a knight in shining armor, a prince on a white horse, and other saviors in everyday life may not be very useful. But why not realize these fantasies in sex? As an option, role-play police, firefighters, or even superhero scenarios.
Of course, if you are simply attracted to guys and girls in uniform, the game doesn’t necessarily have to revolve around saving. However, purchasing special outfits may likely be required.
5. Other "professional" scenarios
Plumber and housewife, boss and employee, football player and cheerleader, doctor and nurse, sex worker or masseur and client. These are just a few ideas; the list could go on, but you get the point.
6. Filming a movie
There are several options: embody the script of your favorite movie (not necessarily porn; erotic scenes from any film will do), write your own, and even just capture the act on camera.
Of course, there’s a chance that professional stunts may not be repeated, but it could still be fun and interesting. The main thing is not to neglect caution and prudence.
7. Changing usual roles
If there’s a clear division between the leader and the follower in your couple, you might experiment by changing the established order of things. You won’t need any special props for that.
8. Power exchange
Sex with elements of BDSM can enrich your experiences. But in this case, particular attention should be paid to safety, even when it comes to light bondage.
We will discuss the rules that need to be observed in this and all the cases described above separately.
Safety tips
1. Ensure consent
Certainly, any sex should be based on mutual consent. But it holds particular significance when it comes to unusual practices.
Never — remember: never — force a partner into activities that they dislike. Even if you really want to. Even if you are sure it will be great in the end.
The same applies to the other side. Don’t agree to a proposal that you don’t like out of solidarity, politeness, or pity. It’s better to search for other common ground or even a different passion than to risk your mental or physical health.
2. Build trust in the game
Another fundamental point pertains to sex in general and to role-playing games in particular. To minimize negative consequences, you need to be confident in your partner. The consequences can vary widely: from someone telling others about your innermost desires to causing mental and physical harm.
3. Discuss the rules
Improvisation is great, but it's better to agree on the conditions in advance. At least the fact that there are no conditions.
When it comes to BDSM practices, it’s always necessary to establish the boundaries of what is allowed and to choose a safe word and gesture. This, as they say, is the norm.
4. Ensure basic knowledge of anatomy
This is especially important when it comes to BDSM: there are specific areas of the body that are better left untouched or approached with extreme caution.
5. Learn the principles of using and operating auxiliary devices
If you are using sex toys or other props (like real handcuffs) for the game, be sure to learn and check how they work in advance. Otherwise, there is a risk of ruining the device, the mood, or encountering worse problems.
In particular, keep in mind that not all toys can be used in the bath, and silicone products should only be used with water-based lubricants.
A separate piece of advice: if the choice is between sex toys and their household analogs (like handcuffs or phallic items), it's better to prefer the former. At least because they take anatomical features into account.
In other respects, just trust your imagination. And don't be afraid of your desires, no matter what the well-known wisdom says.
