Very strange that such a direction in sex as "karezza" — slow and gentle sex, first appeared among the temperamental Italians. Why practice karezza and how to do it right — read in our material.
We are good at "effective sex." It is fast, intense, full of sighs, moans, and, finally, always (or almost always) ends with an orgasm. The orgasm becomes the peak of the mountain that must be reached; otherwise, what is the point of going climbing? Often we forget that sex is not a mountain and we engage in it solely for our own pleasure, not for achieving some heights.
Recent studies conducted at Utrecht University in the Netherlands with the participation of 500 volunteer couples showed that on average, about 5.4 minutes pass between penetration and orgasm. Seriously. Five minutes to enjoy intimacy, feel each other, establish contact… In general, the very fact that some couples agreed to use a stopwatch during love-making is unsettling.
Maybe that's why more and more couples are interested in the phenomenon of "karezza"?
What is karezza?
The term "karezza" (karezza) translates from Italian as "care." It includes touches, caresses, tenderness, glances — everything. Except for orgasm. The idea of karezza is that if people engage in sex in everyday life "like rabbits," then within the framework of karezza, they do it "like turtles."
The method is actually not new. Information about it was first published in 1931. Today, even when couples practice karezza, they may call it differently: tantra, slow sex…
The idea is that during orgasm, a huge amount of the joy hormone dopamine is released into the blood, while during long, deliberate sex, much more oxytocin — the attachment hormone — is produced.
Karezza implies a special awareness in sex, a feeling of being in the moment, similar to meditation.
So, briefly about the principles of karezza.
Choose a partner wisely
Awareness in sex implies that you will approach the choice of a partner very carefully and will not practice short sex for one night. Also because karezza implies that both partners will be involved, both want to improve their sexual life for the better.
Voice intentions
If you have studied the issue of karezza and decided to try to approach sex more consciously, be sure to articulate aloud what goals you want to achieve and why you need this, what you are dissatisfied with in your current intimate life.
Maybe you're generally lacking the time you spend having sex, and you need more.
Set the rules
This may sound a bit boring, but without this, it will be harder for you. Tell your partner that you lack foreplay and how much time you want him to spend on lovemaking before sex. When exactly you are ready to start, actually, having sex. Where and how you want to be touched. It would be good if your partner does the same in response.
Start small
Karezza can last for hours. But that doesn't mean it has to last that long. If you're used to completing the task in three minutes, four minutes will already be an achievement for you; in that extra minute, you can do or say a little bit more to each other.
Explore your partner's body
It’s astonishing how little we may know about our lover's body, even if we have lived together for several years. Do something new, surprise him, learn about his erogenous zone that you haven't touched before. Maybe it's the nipples? Or he goes crazy if you squeeze his penis between your thighs? It’s high time to give up habits and discover something new.
Don't avoid orgasm
Although we talk about delaying orgasm, it doesn't mean avoiding it. Especially if normally you find it difficult to achieve it.
The idea of karezza is not to make things worse for yourself, to train willpower or endurance — it's not climbing or sports tourism, and you are not racing against anyone. Just try to approach your sexual games more consciously, realizing the fullness of the moment.
