Surprisingly, people are ready to give up so many pleasures just because they cannot overcome their fear of the unknown. Anal sex belongs to that category of activities that not everyone dares to try. However, if you study the issue thoroughly, it becomes clear that there is nothing terrible about it.
According to statistics compiled by the Kinsey Institute, about 50% of women experience fear of anal sex. At the same time, 29% have experienced this type of intimate interaction at least once in their lives. The fear of anal sex is mainly based not on facts, but on "scare stories," which are more numerous on the internet than hair on one's head. Experts from the Secrets center for family and sexual education told us what scares women the most about anal sex and why there is nothing to be afraid of.
This is perhaps one of those myths that women are even afraid to think about, let alone discuss such a sensitive topic with friends. It’s a shame because if women shared such necessary information, there is a high probability that most of them would already know that anal sex is not always related to human waste. And to avoid awkward situations, it is not at all necessary to resort to the help of an enema — some doctors generally tend to believe that there is nothing useful in this procedure at all. There are several things you can do to minimize the chance of discomfort related to odor and discharge.
First, it's about nutrition — it’s certainly not advisable to fast, but you can refuse food two hours before the intended act; it’s better to stick to light food and food containing fiber throughout the day, as well as to avoid products that increase gas production.
Second, keep a pack of wet wipes next to the bed to wipe away anything that might be unsightly.
Third — always use barrier contraception; "dirty" anal sex is called that not only because one can get literally dirty during it, but also because the intestinal microflora is quite aggressive and, if it gets into the urethra, can provoke inflammation.
In reality — it is far from the case. And the fact that your experience of anal penetration will be painful or painless depends only on you and your partner. Specifically, it depends on how mentally prepared you are for this contact, how carefully the man behaves, and whether he listens to your feelings, as well as whether you use additional means — lubricant (which is essential!) and sex toys that can prepare the muscles for penetration.
In any case, it’s worth remembering that the main purpose of the anal muscles is defecation, and any object penetrating the rectum will be perceived by the body as a foreign object that needs to be expelled. Therefore, sometimes discomfort is unavoidable, but with the right approach, it will undoubtedly fade away. But the truth is that anal sex can also bring pleasure due to the stimulation of numerous nerve endings located around the anal opening, as well as stimulation of the front wall of the vagina — the G-zone, and the K-zone — which is located on the back wall of the vagina — the stimulation of which provides especially vivid sensations during sex.
The fear of anal sex is largely related to the prejudices that also exist with vaginal sex — that with experience, the muscles will stretch and this will lead to numerous problems. In the case of anal sex — to incontinence and an inability to control the sphincter's function during gas production. In fact, there is no need to be afraid of this for at least two reasons.
First — any muscles in the human body have the ability to both stretch and return to their original position; and the muscles surrounding the anus are no exception, and the sensation of "stretching" that the receiving partner may experience does indeed occur during the first few minutes after sex.
And second, the human body is quite self-sufficient, and the function of some of its parts is regulated even when we are not aware of it. The human anus is structured in such a way that it has a "safety system" in the form of two sphincters, one of which we can tighten and relax at will, while the second, located a finger length deeper — works almost without us and only stops doing so in the case of severe mechanical damage, which during anal sex as a voluntary and desired act is virtually zero. However, for the muscles to recover, it is necessary that the break between anal sex be at least ten days.
If you are interested in anal sex, for example, because your partner likes it, but you are not getting the promised pleasure — do not be in a hurry to give up. It may be worth working on the erogenous zones. It may turn out that the G and K points are in a dormant state.
