Few dream of becoming the victim of a tyrant boyfriend, but for some reason, in reality, quite a few girls end up with them. So is it possible to understand in advance that it is better not to get involved with a guy, and how can this be done?
Indeed, only a very few men are willing to openly admit, "I am a tyrant," at an early stage of a relationship. Most successfully conceal this fact. They can be the life of the party, charming, driving girls crazy — for a time. Then, deciding that their partner is not going anywhere, they finally drop the mask — but in most cases, it is already really "too late" — the victim has "caught" and remains with him, no matter how awful he behaves. Some find themselves "tied" by marriage or even shared children, some by love, others simply fall into emotional dependence. How to break such relationships will be covered in the next article, but for now, let's figure out how to avoid such a turn of events.
So, the main thing to understand is that a tyrant craves power and complete control over the victim. This is a possessive person who puts his interests above the interests of others and demands unquestioning obedience, recognition of the correctness of all his ideas, regardless of how adequate they are in reality. Often, tyrants are people with a huge number of complexes and issues, trying to assert themselves at the expense of others — however, one should not be deceived, this does not make them more receptive to reasonable arguments and "raising with love" from the partner.
This drive for dominance may manifest in the man trying to express his "authoritative" opinion on almost every issue — sometimes even on those that go beyond his interests and/or are the competence of the interlocutor.
Moreover, tyrant men are usually jealous — and while at first they may not throw tantrums, the tendency to keep a potential victim close, as if not wanting to share her with anyone, the desire to know everything about what she is doing while he is not around can become a warning sign. Constant questioning about friends, attempts to influence relationships with them or with family — all fall into this category.
Another serious reason to think carefully could be the obsessive "care" from the man, sometimes reaching absurd levels — under this guise may hide a tyrant's desire to limit the victim's freedom and plunge her into dependency. However, both the presence and absence of this sign, in and of itself, besides context, does not say anything: just as a man who awkwardly expresses his love can overwhelm his chosen one with excessive care, a true tyrant may view the latter as "calf tenderness," excessive and "corrupting" for the woman.
It is also worth observing how he behaves in the company of friends and family, how much he respects other people's wishes and views on various issues. If he withdraws into himself when something goes according to his script, or if those around him prefer to concede to him or agree with him in almost everything — it may indicate that the man has tyrant traits.
The set of signs does not necessarily have to match completely with what is described above: just a couple (or even one) points may be quite sufficient. The main things to pay attention to are the man's willingness to compromise, respect for your opinions and decisions, and the absence of attempts to restrict your freedom in one way or another.
