Why you should talk to your child about sex
The question is rather different: who, if not you? After all, sooner or later the child will have those very questions. And he is likely to seek answers from friends or open sources. So it is in your best interest to provide him with more complete and accurate information.
This way, you will shield him from misconceptions about sex, beliefs, and principles.
Through open dialogue, you will be able to develop a healthy attitude towards intimacy in your son or daughter, teach responsible sexual behavior, and warn him or her about possible negative consequences.
Some parents are afraid that such conversations may prompt the child to begin sexual activity. But it’s quite the opposite. Studies prove Preadolescent Parenting Strategies and Teens’ Dating and Sexual Initiation: A Longitudinal Analysis. that children who discussed questions of sex and sexuality with parents are likely to enter intimate relationships later and more frequently use contraceptives Patterns of condom use among adolescents: the impact of mother-adolescent communication. ; they are also more protected from early pregnancy Listening to youth: teen perspectives on pregnancy prevention. .
What to talk about
The main thing is to focus your attention on the facts. Possible topics can be chosen from this list:
- Male and female anatomy and reproductive system.
- Intercourse and pregnancy.
- Other forms of sexual behavior, including oral sex, masturbation, petting.
- Physical and emotional aspects of sexual contact.
- Venereal diseases and contraception.
- Sexual orientation.
- Peer pressure and ways to resist it.
- Rape and possible situations when it may occur (state of intoxication, meeting strangers in a closed place).
- Expression of sexuality in clothing, behavior, by means of body language.
It is also worth telling the child about his rights regarding sexual life:
- The right to stop sexual contact with a partner at any time.
- The right to refuse unwanted touches.
- The right to safe sex, without the risk of pregnancy and venereal diseases.
- The right to make decisions about his or her sexuality.
- The right not to express his or her sexuality if the child does not want to.
How to talk to your child about sex
Many parents feel awkward talking to children about such intimate topics. So practice before starting a dialogue with your son or daughter.
Reading an “official” lecture is not necessary at all. Look for a convenient opportunity to discuss this or that topic.
The occasion may arise thanks to a scene from a movie or book. Or if the child shows visible physical changes, such as breast growth or facial hair.
During the conversation, listen carefully to the child. Some children may be shy or simply not know something, so it’s hard for them to ask direct questions.
Also, try to ensure that the child feels your support. Show that you respect his or her privacy and believe that he or she has the ability to make the right decision in any situation. Give him or her confidence, then he or she will be able to develop normally.
Other tips on how to talk to children about sex can be found in this article.
