Study the issue
One admission of having a sexual problem can upset any man. But to solve it, it is important to take the time to study your body. Ask yourself questions: have issues with orgasm always occurred or did they start recently? Do they occur with a certain partner? Or at certain moments in life? Is it difficult to achieve orgasm all the time or only from time to time?
The presence and quality of orgasm can be attributed to various reasons, and you need to understand the nature of your problem well before moving on to the next step.
See a doctor
The doctor will conduct an examination and prescribe the necessary tests to confirm or rule out a medical nature of the problem. Often, the inability to achieve orgasm is related to the use of medications, such as antidepressants and anti-anxiety drugs. The problem may also be associated with the intake of antipsychotics and painkillers, beta-blockers, and medications that increase blood pressure. The causes of sexual disorders can also lie within the body, here are the most common ones:
- depression and anxiety;
- hormonal imbalance;
- thyroid disorders;
- pituitary gland dysfunction;
- problems with the nervous system.
Reconsider your approach to parties
If you notice difficulties with orgasm the day after a loud party, think about it. Oddly enough, many do not associate a hedonistic lifestyle with sexual disorders. Men know that consuming alcohol helps increase the duration of intercourse but do not consider that such practices can lead to long-term consequences.
If you are experiencing difficulties with orgasm, refrain from consuming alcohol (and of course, more serious substances) or at least consume it in moderation.
Experiment with masturbation
Many men who have trouble with orgasm can easily achieve it by themselves, and the problems only manifest in sexual relationships with women. The thing is, masturbation trains the body to a certain type of stimulation. If you always use a "strong grip," some specific technique, or watch porn, the body will adapt over time to your habits. As a result, you may become more indifferent to stimulations that do not fit into the usual process of masturbation.
Do not turn the process of self-satisfaction into a routine, experiment and do not masturbate the same way more than half the time. Apply different pressure on the penis, use both hands, invent new techniques, and occasionally use your imagination instead of watching porn. Don’t be afraid to share your masturbation preferences with your partner: including manual stimulation in erotic games will also help shorten the path to achieving orgasm.
Do not be ashamed of your emotions
Often, the causes of sexual disorders have a psychological nature. Sometimes getting to the true sources of a problem can be quite difficult, but here are the most common ones.
Guilt
The problem may lie in upbringing: tabooing the topic of sex in the family or equating making love to sin can lead to future disorders.
Fear of conceiving a child
A hidden reason for the inability to achieve orgasm may be the fear of impregnating the partner, and this may be due to hidden doubts, even if the couple is aiming for conception.
Fear of contracting STIs
Such fears usually manifest during sex with an unfamiliar woman.
Psychological issues related to childhood violence
The stereotype that only women become victims of violence is incorrect. Such experiences can also have a detrimental effect on a man's sexual health.
Problems in the relationship with the partner
Quarrels and discord within the couple affect the quality of sexual acts, particularly the ability to achieve orgasm.
Stress
Anxiety about everyday problems and failures at work affects all areas of a man's life, including sexual health.
If you find that you are experiencing any of the listed factors, try to get rid of it. If it is difficult to achieve on your own, consult a psychotherapist.
The penis is not a machine that always functions smoothly, bringing pleasure to you and your partner.
The body responds to everything that happens in your life, and if you are experiencing sexual problems, then the psychological factor is one of the first things to work on.
Forget about stereotypes
There is a stereotype that women need sexual foreplay and a certain mood to achieve orgasm, while men can achieve satisfaction anytime and anywhere, as long as there is someone. This stereotype is incorrect: the reasons for the inability to achieve orgasm can also lie in the absence of foreplay and the right mood.
There is also a stereotype that a man's goal in sex is to show himself as persistent, intense, and "long". As a result, many are overly concerned with impressing the woman and completely forget about themselves.
Your pleasure is just as important as your partner's pleasure—don't forget to remind yourself of this from time to time.
Resort to additional stimulation
Everyone sometimes needs additional stimulation: orgasm does not come from nowhere. Ask your partner for oral sex or manual stimulation: at these moments, you are not preoccupied with how to impress the woman, but focused on your pleasure. If you cannot achieve orgasm during traditional sex, experiment: create the mood with porn, use sex toys, observe yourself and your partner in the mirror, initiate role plays.
Remember that sex is not only what precedes orgasm, but also the reason why orgasm is so pleasurable.
