Many women adore sex and consider it the deepest manifestation of love and connection. But the ways of perceiving and expressing sexuality can be different from men's. Here are the most common of these features.
Sex starts from the head
Men are often disappointed that a woman's body does not become aroused instantly. The issue here lies in hormonal differences: testosterone, responsible for physical desire in both sexes, is much lower in women than in men, so when their body is already shouting, hers is only whispering.
The catalyst for female arousal is fantasies and memories of passionate sex.
It is for this reason that at the beginning of a relationship and falling in love, when a woman is constantly thinking about a new partner, she becomes easily aroused and demonstrates high sexual appetite.
Sex is about the desire to be desired
Sex researcher Meredith Chivers says: “To be desired is an orgasm.” Upon seeing an attractive man, a woman may feel a slight excitement from the mere thought, “Does he think I am hot?”. The same scheme works in relationships: a partner's sexual hunger provokes corresponding fantasies in a woman's head (what this leads to is described above).
That is why as men expect a lot of sex in marriage, women anticipate an abundance of romance, which for them signifies interest from a partner.
Desire and reactions are not stable
Most women love sex, but their desire can easily fade due to fatigue, resentment, physiological problems, pain, or menopause.
Women often go to bed open to sex, but still not feeling arousal—it needs to be elicited. The path to peak arousal can be complicated and may take up to 45 minutes.
Regular orgasms are not such a frequent thing among women (compared to men), but they are necessary to maintain the fire. Thus, while men love variety, many women are ready to prefer proven methods that guarantee them pleasure.
Sex depends on context
Most women are introduced to sex during masturbation, but there are those who start their sexual life directly with intercourse. Due to unsuccessful or even traumatic early sexual experiences, they may lose interest in the intimate sphere. But this is only a protective reaction.
Harmony in a woman's intimate life directly depends on the feeling of emotional safety and emotional comfort. Romance and seduction are the ways in which a man can demonstrate this and create a suitable context for sex.
Sex is only part of love
Sex, chit-chat, walks, teamwork, managing the home and family together, celebrations, gifts, and affection—all of these are components of love for women. Sex is one of them, but not the most important. It may be a consequence of the warmth a woman feels in a relationship, but it is not necessarily the source of that warmth. Men should take this into account.
Sex is an expression of love
A woman absolutely does not have to engage in sex when she doesn't want to, but sometimes she may satisfy her partner's sexual needs, even if she is not very inclined herself. In warm and benevolent relationships, this is not a sacrifice, but a true gift of love. Moreover, although women want to experience the same arousal before sex as men do, sometimes it comes during the process.
Of course, women and men differ from each other, but these differences are not so great. Perhaps we perceive sex a little differently, but together we strive for emotional and sexual intimacy. That is the key to passionate relationships.
