Female orgasm — an amazing thing. On the one hand, its functional purpose is completely unclear. On the other — although it seems to you that it is neither warm nor cold, it is paradoxically a pleasant phenomenon of nature. Let it be purely out of sporting interest, but still curious how many times she has reached this very release and what she tells her friends (after all, advertising for a target audience has never harmed anyone). We decided to approach the issue from all possible sides, angles, and points of application of knowledge!
In fact, scientists believe that there are many more bonuses for you hidden in female orgasm than you can assume at first, so to speak. American psychologists Cindy Meston and David Buss surveyed several thousand women and came to amazing conclusions.
If pleasure peaks and overflows, an incredible sense of lightness spreads throughout my body, I want to lie down and smile. And the next day you get up in a great mood, as if you've completed some difficult and important task. However, if everything abruptly stops at the most interesting moment, you can't calm down for a long time, toss and turn, angry at your husband, upset that he is snoring contentedly. Of course I can help myself, but it's still not the same.
Researchers have found that one of the main functions of orgasm for women is to promote rapid blood flow away from the breasts and the pelvic area, which causes a feeling of lightness and release. Surely at least once in your life, you have interrupted sex at the most interesting point not by your own choice. No, of course, this is less painful for women; however, the feeling of frustration is quite comparable. Perhaps, if you managed to fall asleep in time, you escaped the grenade blast right in the battlefield... However, if you live together, guess who her resentments will pour out on the next day!
Here there is another interesting point that Martina mentions. Many women (at least those who were raised without excessive hypocrisy) are able to fix the situation with an unachieved release on their own to some extent. However, this is where the chemistry of our body comes into play. Laboratory studies have shown that after release as a result of sex with a partner, a woman's body produces 400 times more prolactin hormone than during masturbation. This hormone calms and relieves pain (its effect is similar to that of opiates), and it is also the one that blocks dopamine, which our body produces during sexual arousal, the night before an exam, or a flight. The increased concentration of this hormone in the blood allows you to run faster for the bus, write reports at night during a deadline, and skillfully bug you if the goal has still not been achieved. In general, if you want to have a peaceful night after sex — dopamine is not your helper.
Reaching a peak during sex with a partner — is a wonderful feeling in itself. However, I have noticed that after this, you feel some special tenderness, closeness to that person. A few times in my life, there were men that I didn't particularly like. For example, physically seemed somewhat unremarkable, not at all a hero of my novel. However, as soon as he brought me to release a few times — I completely lost my head and fell in love with him like a cat.
In this case, Dr. Meston believes that Kimberly describes the classic action of another hormone that is released during orgasm, — oxytocin. It is also known as the bonding hormone. Oxytocin is released (or in some cases not released) in the body of a mother when she feeds her child, and it helps the woman to love this baby as "her own." The chemical action of oxytocin makes a woman more trusting and receptive, dampens critical thinking — thus, her raven becomes white, and her hedgehog becomes smooth. Accordingly, it is oxytocin that is responsible for a woman recognizing a certain man as "her own" and subsequently remaining faithful to him.
To confirm these findings, scientists conducted another interesting experiment (of course, not as interesting as observing women having sex with partners and masturbating, but still worth it).
And so, the researchers focused on two species of voles: prairie and mountain. Genetically, these species are almost identical, but prairie voles had significantly more oxytocin receptors in the cortex of the brain. This species lived its entire life with one partner. Meanwhile, mountain voles jumped into wild promiscuity. To confirm their assumptions, the heartless scientists learned to block oxytocin receptors in faithful voles — and the entire family life immediately fell apart. Both males and females started copulating indiscriminately with all available partners. Similar differences are probably observed in humans within the species, researchers guessed. The human brain is much more complex than a mouse's, and unfortunately, it has not been possible to prove a direct link between the number of oxytocin receptors and sexual partners. However, scientists determined that there are also extremely sentimental men in the human population, while there are those for whom "emotional connection" scenes (people holding hands, laughing together) do not evoke any response in the areas of the brain responsible for pleasure. Women are more sensitive to oxytocin anyway, as historically establishing lasting connections has been an important condition for successful offspring rearing. Thus, with quality sex, you can achieve mutual feelings from almost any of them. The other question is that...
It is a yes-yes, the infamous G spot exists. Research by the University of L'Aquila in Italy has shown that approximately 9 out of 20 women have indeed increased thickness of the uterine wall in a certain location. This suggests that there are more nerve endings there. The easiest way to stimulate this spot is with fingers. To do this, ensuring the partner's consent and adequate lubrication, lay her on her back and try to insert two to three fingers (not too deep). Gently press from below upward, in the direction of the navel. At first, this may provoke a need to urinate, but with continued stimulation, it transitions into incredibly pleasant sensations that lead to orgasm. During sex, this spot can be "reached" in the positions of "woman on top" or "man from behind," but as you understand, achieving geographical precision is difficult.
The statistics show that the clitoris — the bump above the entrance to her uterus — plays a crucial role in achieving release for 40% of women. Ask her to caress herself and notice how she prefers to stimulate this area. Most likely this will not be direct stimulation, but through the fold of skin: for most women, this zone is too sensitive. Next time, try to replicate her technique yourself. Then gesture or verbally remind her to pay attention to this area when you penetrate her. Perhaps this is exactly what you are both missing to reach a peak of sensations together.
