Simple techniques and useful tips from a sexologist.
Masturbation is often underestimated. Especially when it comes to giving pleasure to another. But according to sexologist Vanessa Marin, using hands is one of the best ways to bring a partner to orgasm. The key is to know how to correctly masturbar.
Make sure the man agrees
Some men generally do not like it when their partner touches their penis with their hand. Others may simply not want to masturbate at the moment. And that’s okay.
Therefore, it is important not just to get consent but to hear that the thought of upcoming touches excites the man.
By the way, you should want it too. Truly and right now, because desire is critically important for quality sex and its components. If a man notices that you are doing everything automatically, are not aroused and are thinking about something else, it will be difficult for him to imitate pleasure.
If you are trying masturbation for the first time, tell your partner that you want it just as much as he does, that you are interested in trying something new. Pay attention to the penis, compliment its size and shape. This will excite the man even more.
Prepare yourself
Wash your hands with soap or use antiseptic. Following hygiene rules is mandatory in any situation.
Remove rings and make sure your nails do not hurt the penis. Ensure that your hands are warm.
Remember what areas you need to engage. If very briefly and without going into detail, the penis consists of the body and the head, and at its base are the testicles. If the man is circumcised, during an erection the head will be exposed, if not - hidden under the foreskin. From the head to the body of the penis below leads a skin fold - the frenulum. Don’t forget that it is very sensitive. A small area between the testicles and anus is called the perineum.
And you need to pay attention to everything.
Assume a suitable position
Here you can let your imagination run wild. A classic option is when the man lies on his back and the woman sits opposite. You can straighten your legs, tuck them under you, or cross them. Focus on your feelings.
If the partner wants to watch, he can sit or stand, and you can choose a comfortable position.
Use lubricant
Mandatory. Lubricant will ensure better glide and prevent dry hands from hurting the delicate skin of the penis. You can choose one that suits you: water-based, silicone-based, or oil-based.
Ask to show you how to properly masturbate
If you think you know better, you are mistaken. Not in this case. You have been entrusted with something very intimate, so make an effort to inquire about your partner's desires and preferences. Ask to show how he masturbates when he is alone.
Watch the movements, the pressure, and the speed. Firstly, you will know how he likes it. Secondly, this is exciting. You can ask the man to place his hands on yours to guide you.
The sexologist recommends paying special attention to the pressure applied.
Some men note that their partner squeezes the penis with insufficient strength because they are afraid of hurting. Try different options and ask your partner to stop you when you hit the spot.
Use different techniques
Alternate movements, change speed and pressure, and the orgasm will not be long in coming. Start slowly, and when the man is sufficiently aroused, gradually increase the pace.
Remember the basic movements
Your basic movements with your hand are up and down.
But you shouldn’t stop at this. Moreover, sexologists recommend refining this movement as well. Gently move your wrist back and forth to provide additional stimulation to the penis.
Focus on the hyper-sensitive head of the penis
Pay attention to the head: slow down your movements when you reach it and slightly increase the pressure. Stroke the frenulum with your finger. Just very gently!
You can try to start from above in such a way that only the fingertips touch the penis, and when moving down, the head presses against the palm.
Form a ring with your thumb and index finger
Without unclenching your fingers, move them up and down. Stop at the head and slightly rotate it.
Use your second hand
Once you find a comfortable position and get accustomed, bring in your second hand. You can place it over the leading one and continue the basic movements. Or play with your fingers, envelop the partner's penis with both hands, and perform circular movements.
Take the penis in one hand and slowly move it up and down. At the same time, with your index, middle, ring, and thumb of the second hand, move from the bottom to the top from the base of the head, stroking it as if you were unscrewing a bottle cap.
Try to grasp the penis with both hands so that both thumbs are on one side. With these fingers, gently stroke the head in an upward and downward direction.
Create the illusion of endless penetration
Another interesting technique: make only downward movements from the head to the base of the penis first with one hand, and then follow with the second. This will create the illusion of endless penetration.
Then try the opposite: move only from the base to the head. Just be careful not to pull the skin too much; this can cause discomfort.
Unclench your palms
Hold the penis between your palms and stroke it with the inner part along or across, gently rotating. Or you can carefully stroke the area under the head with the edge of your palm.
Or you can try to create the illusion of endless penetration with your palms, without clenching your hands into fists.
Engage other parts of the body
Don't focus solely on the penis. Caress the thighs, testicles, perineum, or buttocks. Be gentle with the testicles, as they are very sensitive.
Take both testicles in your hand and squeeze and tug them very gently. Hold the skin between the testicles with your thumb and index finger and gently stroke it from the base to the edge.
Some men enjoy anal stimulation. Discuss this with your partner and be bold if the response is positive.
Think about yourself too
Feel free to touch yourself and indulge in the sensations. Your man will like it. Be open and enjoy the process, benefiting from it for yourself as well.
To repeat: you should not distance yourself, performing monotonous movements up and down with a bored expression on your face. Be active, show interest, demonstrate arousal.
Observe the reaction
Glance at your partner's face, listen to his breathing, and watch the erection. If you feel that the erection is weakening or the partner is not showing interest, try changing the technique or ask what's wrong. The key is to do this gently and carefully. If necessary, temporarily hand over control to the man and observe his movements.
Don’t stop immediately after orgasm
A male orgasm can last from 5 to 30 seconds. If you see that your partner is on the verge, keep going, don’t change anything. Pay attention to the reaction and don’t stop after the orgasm.
Gradually slow down, gently and smoothly relax your hand. Just don’t overdo it: after ejaculation, the sensitivity of the penis increases, and any touch, even the gentlest, can cause discomfort.
Find out if he liked everything
Don’t hesitate to ask your partner to share his feelings. Find out what he liked the most, and what was not so pleasant. Listen to the man and work on any mistakes.
