A few years ago, Fun Factory marketers calculated how many strap-ons were sold in Russia. The figure was impressive: about 100,000 units a year. Given that, first of all, strap-ons from Bremen are unlikely to compete in cheapness with similar toys from other manufacturers. And secondly, it is believed that Russia is a terribly conservative country where a male rear is a "sacred cow" that no one dares to touch.
Who Needs Strap-Ons
It would be erroneous to assume that strap-ons are primarily purchased by gays (who should wisely keep quiet in Russia). Homosexual men can easily do without additional means. Perhaps some of these purchases were made by lesbian couples. However, they much more often buy dildos and vibrators, as well as clitoral stimulators (many female couples do not need penetrating sex). A single woman is better off spending on an expensive vibrator for herself than on a strap-on for the same amount. So we are almost certain that the overwhelming majority of these toys was intended specifically for heterosexual couples. This version was confirmed when it turned out that very often on Russian dating sites, men are looking for a strap-on partner, and without any BDSM context. The same applies to the huge number of advertisements from sex workers, who have increasingly begun to offer this rather expensive service to Russian men. So, there is no talk of homosexuality. Role reversal is simply about seeking another experience. We can only guess the real number of Russian men who have already tried receiving anal sex or are ready for this experiment.
About Fears and Male Physiology
Our heads are filled with stereotypes. We understand that men's physiology is not at all like ours, and somewhat we are even ready to admit that sometimes a man can allow himself to not be active in bed.
But when it comes to completely exposing feelings and renouncing familiar roles, we begin to torment ourselves with questions: "Is it even normal that I want him in a way that I shouldn't?", "Isn't he a pervert?", "What if I am a secret pervert?" We hope that statistics will dispel your fears. According to various studies, at least 30% of heterosexual couples have experience with anal sex (and in about half of cases, the man takes the receptive role). About 60% of women and 95% of men can be brought to orgasm through anal stimulation. After all, prostate massage is only accessible through the rectum — the prostate has no "outlets to the surface." However, you shouldn't immediately make such suggestions to your husband: not everyone will be happy with such an idea. Talk to your man to find out what exactly he wants and what he fears, what is unacceptable for him in sex. And try something new with him in bed, guided by the reactions of his body. Think about the values from which your husband's worldview is formed. If he makes crude jokes about anal-genital themes, sees the doggy style as a way of humiliation, and considers visiting a proctologist, shaving armpits, and getting manicures as actions unworthy of a "real man," then forget about role reversal in bed once and for all. And don't even mention this topic if your husband is dear to you and you want to keep him. However, if his value system contradicts the stereotypes about a "real man" at least sometimes, be prepared to get your husband completely and without reserve.
How to Make an Indecent Proposal
You need to corrupt a man step by step. You can start with the simplest: while giving him oral sex, simultaneously massage the area between the testicles and the anus, getting closer to it but not touching. The next time, be bolder: dare to stroke and massage the area of the anus itself without entering it.
At the third stage, during oral sex when the man is aroused, attend to his anus. Just be ready to sacrifice your manicure and don’t forget about lubricant! And yes: don’t inform him about this! Just deepen your finger into his anal opening and find the prostate. Continuing oral sex and pressing on the prostate, you will give him a fantastic orgasm. Before you dare to switch roles, clarify with your husband whether the use of toys is acceptable to him, is he ready for it? It’s one thing to enjoy yourself, but quite another to present yourself to your man with a vibrator at the ready. If he is ready, boldly go to the sex shop together. He will stop by the display of toys and choose what he wants. All you need to do now is to create an atmosphere and mood for a game in which there will be no place for complexes, embarrassment, or hypocrisy. And also: despite all assurances that modern men are foreign to stereotypes, do not rush to put your husband in the doggy style position. A man feels more humiliation from the position than from the fact of anal sex itself. Missionary position with a vibrator, or missionary position with an erection ring with an anal plug — a perfectly innocent start. The Fun Factory company collected feedback from women who purchased strap-ons. And here’s what they usually say: “It’s an amazing feeling when a man completely opens up to you, trusts you. It’s a very precious gift, he gives you himself entirely without reserve. Only then did I realize that a man is a whole world, and we women constantly forget about this.” Or this: “My partner is strong, smart, and accomplished in life... When I entered him for the first time, he was very embarrassed. And after a while, I heard the words that any woman dreams of: 'I am all yours from head to toe...' And sex with him became the most amazing erotic experience.”
