The time of men has come: what do they think about intimacy and how do they perceive it.
During my work as a sex therapist, I have listened to the reflections of thousands of men about their sexual feelings, fantasies, and intimate lives. Of course, I don't know what it's like to be a man, but I have had the opportunity to form an idea of the male perception of sex. Here are some of the most common points.
1. Sex begins in the body
If female desire can be triggered by fantasies or emotions, then male desire is primarily physical.
The reason is the high level of testosterone, which is responsible for arousal.
And it's not just about young men: an adult man's body will instantaneously react to the sight of a naked woman (wife or partner) coming out of the shower.
2. Sex is hunger
For men, the craving for sex is akin to a sweet tooth. They perceive every sexual episode as an opportunity for unexpected gastronomic pleasure, so their brains are always thrilled at the thought of a new experiment. Sweets almost never become tiresome, but a day without dessert is not as good.
3. Sex is energy
For a man, sexuality fills relationships with potential and excitement. Sex gives him drive and energy to achieve his goals (and his partner). It also helps him endure the daily routine, promising a reward at the end of the day.
4. Sex is excitement
In a man's understanding, sex is the most thrilling adventure and the most reliable way to obtain pleasure. Therefore, every moment of flirting, every smile, sexual figure or image is a blow to the male brain: he experiences delight at the mere hint of something related to sex.
5. Sex is love
The release of sexual energy allows men to feel that they are finally home. For them, sex is an expression of love, care, and support, so necessary after constant battles and problems in the outside world.
Although men are often accused of wanting "just sex," most perceive intimacy as an emotional, not just a physical connection.
For all these reasons, sex for men is a way to strengthen attachment.
6. Sex is a way to give love
There is a stereotype that men are selfish in bed, but in reality, many of them want to bring their partners the same pleasure that they receive. They often think and ask how to give the girl pleasure. And all this is nothing more than an expression of their love.
In conclusion
Many women, for safety reasons, prefer to establish an emotional connection first and then a physical one. For men, it is the exact opposite: they would rather start with sex to avoid feeling emotionally vulnerable. But ultimately, the male sex drive is a good sign in relationships and yet another way of expressing love.
