1. Do what you do best
Even if you doubt your sexual skills, there is surely at least one thing you are really good at. Let’s say you’re not an oral sex guru, but you excel at spanking, or you’re unsure about your kissing technique, yet you consider yourself a master of caresses.
Spend a month doing what you are good at and what you enjoy. Each time you do it, as well as at the end of the designated period, think: “I am on top, because I gave my partner a whole month of excellent sex”.
2. Try something new
As soon as you feel like a master in one area, start trying other things in which you do not feel so comfortable. There is no need to aim for magnificent results right away — practice the new for fun.
It is helpful to change your sexual script so that the process stops being monotonous and becomes interesting.
3. Laugh
Skills do not solve everything. What truly makes sex good is your attitude towards it. If you can enjoy yourself and laugh when something goes wrong, success is already in your hands.
4. Focus on what you love about your body
You can constantly think about your flaws, but it is much better to appreciate your virtues. Therefore, when looking in the mirror, focus on what you like about your face and body. And try to pay less attention to the features that do not evoke overwhelming enthusiasm.
5. Wear what boosts your confidence
When you wear something that (at least in your opinion) makes you irresistible, you automatically feel more confident. If you think you look good with that lipstick, put it on before heading to bed. Think you smell great after that lotion? Slather it on before sex. It doesn’t matter what makes you feel fabulous — use it!
6. Repeat a mantra
To truly convey a message of confidence to yourself, arm yourself with a mantra like “I am sexy”. Repeat it while looking in the mirror, write the phrase in your journal, place sticky notes with these words all over your apartment. The more you hear something, the stronger you believe in it.
Affirmations enhance our positive view of ourselves.
The task of becoming more confident seems challenging, but if you break it down into small sub-points, the mission becomes achievable. What other profit comes from this? Once you successfully implement the listed methods in the bedroom, your confidence will increase in other areas of your life.
