What are role-playing games
In general terms, sexual role-playing games are activities during which two or more people take on specific roles and act out scenarios based on their sexual fantasies.
However, the word "scenario" should not be taken literally. In some cases, the game may be thoroughly planned in advance. In others, it is simply improvisation within the framework of a given role.
The key word here is "fantasy".
Therefore, some games may involve special costumes and sexual paraphernalia, while others may not. This means that changing the usual behavior of partners during sex can already be considered a game. Thus, this includes experiments with more aggressive behavior, and even so-called dirty talk.
Why play
The first and most obvious reason is that the game brings variety to sexual life. Yes, at first, passions run high and just the presence of a partner ignites burning desire. However, often over time, the intensity decreases and this beloved, yet already familiar being stops provoking a storm of feelings. Or sex becomes too monotonous and uninteresting. This is where games come to the rescue.
In some of them, partners kind of return to the beginning of the relationship. In this case, they usually reenact the stage of seduction. In others, they aim for new sensations. Here, sex toys or unusual practices related, for example, to bondage or dominance and submission may come into play.
Another advantage has more of a psychological property. It is about the fact that during the game, partners can realize their long-standing sexual fantasies. It is a kind of liberation from obsessive ideas. The result is liberation, relief, and, of course, pleasure.
And the last important bonus is the strengthening of relationships. Firstly, because realizing secret desires usually becomes a couple's secret. And secrets give a sense of community. Secondly, by playing with a partner, a person overcomes the temptation to seek what they desire on the side. In their bed is already a stranger, a long-time object of passion, and anyone else. Of course, with the caveat that this "anyone else" is ready for the proposed experiments.
Popular role-playing scenarios
The ideas presented can be a specific hint or a starting point. Of course, you should play only by your own rules and in your own game.
1. Meeting
The meaning of the game is to recreate the first meeting: the moment of acquaintance and seduction. You can play at home or outside. For example, to "accidentally" meet on the street and continue the meeting in a hotel room (which is better to book in advance).
The roles you try on can correspond to your ordinary life or differ radically from it. Indeed, just like your appearance and the sexual plan of the evening.
2. Striptease
This relatively innocent erotic performance can certainly be considered a role-playing game. Especially if the partner performing the dance truly immerses themselves in the role of a stripper and dresses in the appropriate outfit.
3. Teacher / student
For one partner, this is an opportunity to finally satisfy their desires from school and college days. For the other, a way to feel like an authoritative and incredibly sexy person.
4. Heroics
Dreaming of a knight in shining armor, a prince on a white horse, and other saviors in ordinary life may not be very useful. But why not realize these fantasies in sex? As an option, play out police, fireman, or even superhero scenarios.
Naturally, if you are simply attracted to guys and girls in uniform, the game doesn't have to revolve around saving. However, you will most likely have to take care of buying special clothing.
5. Other "professional" scenarios
Plumber and housewife, boss and employee, football player and cheerleader, doctor and nurse, sex worker or massage therapist and client. These are just a few ideas; the list can go on, but you get the point.
6. Filming a movie
Loverssex once wrote about the need to separate real sex and porn. But within the framework of the game, you are free to break this taboo, especially if you want to try all those screen tricks.
There are several options: realize the scenario of your favorite movie (not necessarily pornographic; erotic scenes from any movie will do), write your own, and even just record the action on camera.
Of course, there is a possibility that professional tricks cannot be repeated, but it might still be fun and interesting. The main thing is not to neglect safety and common sense.
7. Changing familiar roles
If there is a clear division in your couple between the leader and the follower, you can, for the sake of experiment, change the established order of things. For this, no special props are even required.
8. Power exchange
Sex with elements of BDSM can enrich new experiences. But in this case, special attention must be paid to safety, even when it comes to light bondage.
We will discuss the rules that need to be followed in this and all the cases described above separately.
Safety techniques
1. Ensure consent
Undoubtedly, any sex should be based on mutual consent. But it is especially significant when it comes to unusual practices.
Never — remember: never — coerce a partner into activities that they do not enjoy. Even if you really want to. Even if you are sure that it will be great in the end.
The same goes for the other side. Do not agree to a proposal you do not like out of solidarity, politeness, or pity. It is better to seek other points of intersection or even another passion than to risk your mental or physical health.
2. Build the game on trust
Another basic point that concerns sex in general and role-playing games in particular. To minimize negative consequences, you must be sure of your partner. And the consequences can vary widely: from someone revealing your innermost desires to inflicting mental and physical harm.
3. Discuss the rules
Improvisation is one thing, but conditions are better discussed in advance. At least that there are no conditions.
If it is about BDSM practices, you always need to establish the limits of what is allowed and choose a safe word and gesture. This, as they say, is the norm.
4. Ensure basic anatomical knowledge
This is particularly important when it comes to BDSM: there are certain areas of the body that are better not to involve or to involve with extreme caution. In the article on shibari, you will find specific examples and advice.
5. Learn the principles of operation and rules of using auxiliary devices
If you are using sex toys or other props (such as real handcuffs) for the game, find out in advance how they work and check them. Otherwise, there is a risk of ruining the device, the mood, or encountering worse problems.
In particular, you should remember that not all toys can be taken in the bath, and silicone products only suit water-based lubricants.
A separate piece of advice: if you have a choice between sex toys and their household analogs (the same handcuffs or phallic objects), it is better to prefer the former. At least because they consider anatomical features.
Otherwise, just trust your imagination. And do not be afraid of your desires, whatever the well-known wisdom may say.
