1. Watch your breathing
Usually before the onset of orgasm, people either start to breathe heavily or completely hold their breath.
Go the opposite way: try to breathe slowly and deeply.
This will allow you to be in a more conscious state at the moment of climax (which means you will feel it better) and possibly achieve a whole-body orgasm.
At first, it probably won't work, practice will be required. However, if you manage to slow your breathing but desire starts to fade, resume your usual breathing rhythm.
2. Move
For a vivid orgasm, relaxation is necessary relaxation. But often it is at this moment of closeness that people are most tense and immobile. One possible reason could be plain embarrassment.
What to do? First, analyze which parts of the body are inactive during orgasm. And this is not just about the pelvic area, but also, for example, the arms and legs.
Step two — experiment and bring your body into motion. If you are embarrassed to convulse suddenly in front of your partner, do it for the first time during masturbation.
3. Delay the orgasm
A delayed orgasm is usually longer and stronger. And this rule works for both women and men. But to learn to delay the finish, training will again be required.
First, you will need to find your point of no return, that is, the moment after which the orgasm is already inevitable. Then do this a few times, bringing yourself to this pre-orgasmic state and temporarily stopping stimulation. Try to delay the orgasm this way three to four times, and only then finish. The sensations will surely be much more intense than usual.
4. Train your pelvic muscles
Kegel exercises aimed at strengthening the pelvic muscles can enhance orgasm and solve a number of other problems: from urinary incontinence to rapid ejaculation.
You will find training options for women here. The male version is in this article.
5. Stimulate the clitoris and prostate
Everything here is quite obvious. Many women cannot achieve vaginal orgasm at all, so it is essential to engage the clitoris. Men seem to be luckier: stimulation of the penis almost always leads to the desired result. But if you also stimulate the prostate, the orgasm will be much stronger.
6. Pay attention to the whole body
To get new sensations from orgasm, distract yourself from the genitals and expand the sexual anatomy. Explore other parts of the body (yours and your partner's), try to stimulate them in different ways and with different intensities.
Concentrate on the sensations and, most importantly, do not perceive the act as foreplay.
Let your whole body become a full participant in the sexual process — then both the process itself and its outcome will be more interesting.
7. Use fantasy properly
Fantasy can both improve sex and lead to a powerful orgasm, as well as ruin everything at its core.
In the first case, it is about erotic thoughts and dreams that the couple implements in sex. They help to loosen up, arouse faster, and experience new sensations.
The second type of fantasizing is a way for one of the partners to distract themselves from what is happening. The reason may be anxiety, difficulties with concentration. In this case, one should train mindfulness and focus on bodily sensations. If, however, the issue is that a person dislikes something in sex, that’s a reason to talk to their partner or a doctor (sexologist, psychotherapist) about their feelings.
8. Use toys
On one hand, sex toys can speed up orgasm: here we are talking mainly about vibrators and masturbators. On the other hand, they can make the orgasm brighter. For example, by using them for additional stimulation: it is appropriate to recall devices for the clitoris and prostate here. Overall, toys can simply do what the human body is not always capable of.
So you have at least three reasons to check out a sex shop or our guide to sex toys.
9. Consult a doctor
In some cases, it's no longer about improving the orgasm but simply about achieving it. If you have encountered such a problem or if orgasms have become less vivid and strong than before, it is advisable to seek professional help from a sexologist, gynecologist, or simply a therapist.
