1. Take a comfortable position
On average, men reach orgasm in three to five minutes, so there's no need to worry too much about comfort. But it's still worth finding a position that you both like.
Typically, it's easier for a woman to kneel (putting a pillow or blanket under her knees if everything is happening on the floor). The partner can stand or sit on the edge of the bed so that they can lean back.
An additional advantage of this position is a good view for the man. To make the sight even more spicy, move to a mirror. Of course, you can both look into it.
2. Start correctly
Most men I've talked to said they don't like long foreplay. Some even reported feeling awkward or ticklish.
Of course, you can warm the man up before oral sex, but do it quickly. Try to caress him with your tongue or fingers through his underwear or touch the penis, asking what the partner would like.
If the man is not in a state of readiness as soon as you take off your clothes, take advantage of the situation. Take his entire penis in your mouth and caress it with your tongue until the penis expands (this may be the only moment when you'll be able to pull off such a maneuver, so enjoy!). Once an erection occurs, slowly lick the penis from the base to the tip.
3. Master the basic technique
After foreplay — the main part? No, first you need to make the penis wet. To do this, go up and down the shaft with your mouth a few times, pressing your tongue tightly against it. Try to gather and use the maximum amount of saliva and don't worry if it dribbles carelessly — that's even for the best. But watch out for your teeth: they should not take part in the process!
Now that the preparation is complete, start using your hand along with your mouth.
For most people, the mouth is not big enough to fit an average-sized penis, so the hand is your main helper.
The optimal option: use your hand to stimulate the body of the penis, and your mouth for the head. Keep in mind that the shaft is not as sensitive as other intimate male areas, so don't be afraid to grip it firmly. The head, on the other hand, is very sensitive, so a warm, wet mouth is just right for it.
And now for the technique. Firmly grip the penis in your hand, bring your lips to the head, and imagine that these two parts of your body are connected. Then start moving up and down the shaft for several minutes. This is a standard technique that you can return to throughout the oral sex.
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4. Pay attention to the testicles
The scrotum is often undeservedly forgotten. Don't make this mistake. After you get into the rhythm with the basic technique, move on to the next step.
Take the testicles in your free hand. Remember: they are sensitive, so you need to find the optimal amount of pressure. A light touch will tickle the man, while a rough squeeze will cause pain. Caress the scrotum with your fingers while continuing to perform oral sex. Gently pinch the skin between the testicles with your thumb and forefinger and try to move your fingers from the base of the penis down.
Then caress this area with your mouth while continuing to stimulate the penis with your hand. Lick the testicles, take them in your mouth, and run your tongue between them, from the back of the scrotum to the front.
5. Don’t forget about the prostate
Leading the ranking of the most often ignored zones is, of course, the anus and the prostate. For many heterosexual men, their stimulation is strictly taboo. And that's a shame! But before invading the holy of holies, obtain explicit permission from your partner.
If the guy doesn't agree to anal stimulation, try stimulating his perineum. It responds best to pressure — for this, you can use your knuckles.
However, if the partner is ready for anal play, the first thing you will need is silicone lubricant. Apply it to your index finger and gently feel for the anal opening. A light push is enough to get inside. If the partner starts thrusting his hips against your hand, slowly push your finger in deeper. You only need to penetrate a few centimeters in, and then gently move your finger back and forth.
Once you master this technique, try to reach the golden standard of oral sex: one finger in the anus, the other fingers of that hand caressing the scrotum, and the other hand and mouth on the penis. Instant orgasm guaranteed.
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6. Explore other methods
Once you get the hang of the basic technique, start experimenting. Different men like different things — find out what attracts yours.
Here are a few examples:
- Stimulate the base of the penis with your tongue while continuing to stimulate the shaft and head with your hand.
- Pay special attention to the frenulum — this area is the most sensitive for many men. Caress it with your pointed tongue up and down and side to side or try sucking on it.
- Continue to stimulate the penis with your hand, while only caressing the head with your lips.
- Add circular movements with your hand to the basic technique.
- Gently tap the penis with your tongue. This can provide a little break for your jaw.
- For a longer break, use your lips, face, and chest (you can just rub them against the penis).
- An alternative is to alternate manual and oral stimulation.
Don't try to use all the techniques at once. Start with a couple and ask what the partner liked, or observe his reaction.
7. Finish wisely
The eternal debate: to swallow or not to swallow? What can be said here? If you really can't stand the taste of semen, keep some tissues by the bed to discreetly get rid of it. Another option is to let the semen drip onto the penis the moment you pull it out of your mouth.
But think again. How would you feel if your partner immediately ran to brush their teeth after oral sex?
Of course, genital fluids are not grandmother's compote, but we're talking about a quick gulp of a couple of teaspoons. And anyway, tastes change...
8. Love oral sex
The main advice to take from this article is that incredible oral sex is created by enthusiasm. There is nothing better for the partner than knowing that you enjoy their penis.
An excellent way to show your enthusiasm is to initiate oral sex. Surprise your man when he just wakes up or comes home. Tell him you want to please him while watching a cool series or having dinner at a restaurant.
Maintain this mood throughout the process. Moan. Look him in the eyes and smile. Pull the penis out of your mouth and rub it against your body. Say how good it feels.
You will become a guru of oral sex when you genuinely love it. And that's actually very easy: it's so cool to completely control someone else's pleasure.
