Create a sense of comfort
Let's consider a situation when you have a new romance, you are already halfway to sex, that is, there is already a voiced or unvoiced agreement or it hangs palpably in the air.
To begin with, make sure that your chosen one is mentally ready and wants this as much as you do. Then pay attention to the surrounding circumstances. Try to look at the situation through her eyes. Is the light soft enough (if there isn’t any, it won’t hurt, on the contrary)? How comfortable and clean is the bed, or whatever you are going to be doing this on? Is there any danger of being noticed, eavesdropped on, and so on (unless, of course, you are exhibitionists)?
Speak and act
If she’s standing and not taking any action, undress her. If she undresses herself — follow her lead.
Women love with their ears. This is an axiom, so don't forget to tell her how wonderful, beautiful she is, how good she smells, how supple, sweet, etc. This will help her relax, and that is the first step to arousal. Otherwise, it won’t work.
Choose proven methods
Kissing, caressing, lightly running your tongue over her skin without leaving wet marks — all these methods of arousal are known, as are erogenous zones (primarily the neck and breasts, but the ankle and the back of the knee can turn out to be particularly sensitive — anything).
Act gently, but not too lightly, so that she doesn’t get ticklish: laughter doesn’t go well with arousal.
If thoughtful sex looms on a comfortable bed, you can offer the lady a light massage with oil. This is very exciting. Just remember that the oil should be warm. You should be more careful with scents: they can turn out to be sharp or not to her taste.
Use aphrodisiacs
Not everyone, but many believe in the power of stimulating substances and natural aphrodisiacs — that is, things that are supposed to cause arousal. It is known that strong substances have a huge number of side effects. And we do not recommend adding them to a woman's food or drinks without her knowledge: whether or not to take certain substances should only be her choice.
As for natural stimulants, these are primarily gifts from the sea, olives, chocolate, avocados, and a number of other products, most of which are for connoisseurs and can cause allergies: be careful. The stimulating properties of food can reveal themselves after 40 minutes — an hour.
But in any case, it’s worth having a snack: hungry women often think only about food. By the way, the magical power of wine hasn’t been canceled either: a glass or two can help relax, and therefore arouse faster.
Do not insist
Contrary to the established opinion among men that cunnilingus, like oral sex, is loved by all, not every woman wants to see her new partner's tongue between her legs on the first night. If you try to bring your head to her groin and she gently pushes you away, it means she doesn’t want it: she is unsure of herself, thinks she smells bad, is unshaven, and so on. In general, don’t try to understand, just don’t insist.
Arouse, but check
In general, you can try anything, but keep constantly monitoring her reaction. If, in response to you grabbing her wrists and throwing her hands above her head, she pouts her lips, twitches, or squeezes her knees, loosen your grip. If you’ve twisted her hair into a fist and she frowned? Another misstep. If you touched her clitoris, and she arched her back and purred? Finally, you guessed right!
Tell her what awaits her
Let’s not overlook the situation when you need to arouse a friend with whom you have regular sex. If you want her immediately and not in the most suitable place and are now afraid that she won’t agree to the intercourse, influence her with words, and preferably whisper.
Rarely does a woman not get aroused if you start whispering to her what and how you are going to do with her right now. It’s good if your hand starts helping, as they say, not by word, but by deed.
Desire her
And most importantly — remember: little can excite a woman more than the sight or feeling of her longing man. If you yourself are not burning, then it will be difficult for you to ignite the lady.
Also read:
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- How to please a woman: 9 simple things every woman dreams of in bed →
- 9 effective ways to enhance orgasm →
