Partner
Opinions differ. Both among guys and girls. Some wanted a stranger, and for the spark that skipped to throw them into each other's arms. For others, ideal sex is only possible with a trusted partner.
Strangely enough, physical attributes interested the girls more.
Girls
- “Confident, but not overconfident,” — Victoria, 31 years old.
- “The main thing is no belly,” — Irina, 18 years old.
- “Broad shoulders and a back so that I feel small under him,” — Ekaterina, 23 years old.
- “He must be taller than me. So that after sex I can lie on his shoulder, and still my legs were shorter than his,” — Maria, 27 years old.
- “The main thing is the emotional component so that it is easy, playful, little giggles, emotional warmth,” — Olga, 20 years old.
- “Ideal sex is possible with a man who has a member that is not small, but not too large, not thin, but not square (that is, fat). And the main thing is that he must be erect,” — Evgenia, 30 years old.
- “It’s important that he sparks. And who seduces whom, how persistent — it’s not crucial. In general, girls like to be seduced. But in my best sex, I put myself on a man and without panties. I’m still thrilled with myself. By the way, just like him,” — Tatyana, 35 years old.
Guys
- “I can hardly imagine sex with a stranger. I need to feel something, and it doesn’t have to be love, but something like respect. She must be interesting to me for the future. I want to be sure that in the morning I won’t try to kick her out, but will gladly have coffee with her,” — Pavel, 36 years old.
- “Her shapes are secondary. The main thing is that the person is good,” — Denis, 28 years old.
- “The best sex I had was with a stranger. So I guess I will also imagine ideal sex with an unfamiliar girl. For some reason, that excites me,” — Alexander, 28 years old.
- “It’s important for me that she has long hair: she is still a woman. And that I can hold her by the hair during the process,” — Kirill, 35 years old.
- “So there’s something to grab onto. And she’s clean,” — Mikhail, 25 years old.
- “In general, I don’t care what she looks like. There have been all kinds. Everyone is interesting in their own way,” — Alexander, 37 years old.
Preparation
It is worth noting that many — both guys and girls — initially began to talk about cool sex that was not anticipated at all. Nevertheless, despite all their love for spontaneity, girls would like to know in advance that there will be sex, so they can prepare their bodies.
Girls
- “I’m a perfectionist, and I want to think about pleasure, not about unshaved legs,” — Olga, 20 years old.
- “It would be better to know a couple of days in advance so I have time to do epilation, attend to my heels, and all that,” — Tatyana, 35 years old.
- “Ideal sex is categorically impossible if there is some problem like hairy legs or something else. All the girls get hung up on this, and boys can’t cope with it,” — Maria, 27 years old.
Guys
- “The main thing is to shave under the armpits and pubic area. And don’t forget to use some cologne: girls like my perfume,” — Sergey, 26 years old.
- “I don’t think about the body at all. I know I don’t smell — that’s enough,” — Denis, 28 years old.
Foreplay
All the interviewees of Loverssex noted the importance of foreplay (even in spontaneous sex). It shouldn’t be formal for a minute, but it shouldn’t be prolonged either.
Girls
- “To slip my hand into my underwear quickly rub everything I touch, and move on to sex? God forbid such a lover. Let him look into my eyes, examine me, admire, touch, stroke,” — Tatyana, 35 years old.
- “I love to undress myself, and for him to watch. Then we go to bed and thoughtfully caress each other for 10-20 minutes,” — Irina, 18 years old.
Guys
- “I like to wash together before sex. Most of the time the first ‘session’ starts in the bathroom,” — Maxim, 24 years old.
- “Even if we have spontaneous sex somewhere in the mountains, I first get the girl excited, and if she’s already aroused, I’ll bring her almost to the peak but not finish,” — Anton, 32 years old.
Oral Pleasures
It turned out that not everyone considers them an integral attribute of ideal sex.
Girls
- “Oral sex from either side or both — not necessary at all,” — Elena, 35 years old.
- “For girls, oral sex (both for us and for them) is a big intimate step, more intimate than other sex. So all this cunnilingus can be a little embarrassing if it’s about a new partner. But if it’s ‘someone I know’, it’s all acceptable and pleasing,” — Maria, 27 years old.
- “I will gladly give a blowjob to a man I want to impress and be remembered by. I enjoy doing it myself,” — Olga, 20 years old.
Guys
- “I enjoy oral sex. I like it when she lets me go down into the ‘attic’. And I’m all for her oral participation,” — Sergey, 26 years old.
- “I can't say that it’s important for me that she has to give me oral pleasure. If a woman doesn't like it, why force it? The partner should be happy with me in bed,” — Alexander, 37 years old.
Actual Sex
The description of the process itself is best summed up by the expression “There are as many opinions as there are people.” So just enjoy.
Girls
- “Ideal sex is diverse sex. There’s tenderness here, a bit of roughness there, a hair grab here, twisting hands there, gently entered here, abruptly there,” — Tatyana, 35 years old.
- “The man in sex should be moderately emotional: not grunting silently, but at least somehow expressing his excitement and definitely orgasm. Not screaming, of course,” — Anastasia, 28 years old.
- “When a man doesn’t fall into a rut but enters thoughtfully, feeling it, enjoys himself, but also ensures I’m having a great time,” — Evgenia, 30 years old.
Guys
- “It’s important for me that the girl has a much more impressive mountaineering experience than I do. I may not conquer Everest, but my partner should admire the panorama from the ‘highest’ point as much as possible,” — Anton, 32 years old.
- “I love contrasting gentle-rough sex, but without harsh extremes. A couple of slaps on the butt and a little choking — OK. Beyond that, it becomes uncomfortable,” — Kirill, 35 years old.
- “I like expressive girls. I'm even okay with hearing complaints from the neighbors. Loud moans and impulsive movements, like exorcising a devil, make me feel like a wizard,” — Mikhail, 25 years old.
Continuation
Let's imagine that ideal sex (even in the mountains) didn't end with the last orgasm and has a continuation.
Girls
- “I love morning sex. When I wake up because he’s inside me,” — Irina, 18 years old.
- “If I spend the night at a man’s place, I love to sneak away before he wakes up. But if he catches me, I won’t resist,” — Victoria, 31 years old.
- “Coffee in bed is standard courtship. We can watch a funny movie, and then continue having sex,” — Evgenia, 30 years old.
- “It’s great not to get out of bed for a whole day,” — Alina, 28 years old.
Guys
- “It’s cool when there’s a free morning the next day. A joint breakfast and another ‘session’ — a great continuation of the night’s adventures,” — Dmitry, 34 years old.
- “If the sex and partner are ideal, let her spend the day with me, I’ll make her breakfast. But if the only desire is to sneak away, then it wasn’t ideal sex,” — Pavel, 36 years old.
- “Woke up, went to the bathroom, had sex — that’s how a morning should be,” — Denis, 28 years old.
Perhaps the desire to continue the communication in the morning is the main indicator that the sex was successful. After all, if you are having breakfast together and smiling at each other, then everything was perfect! And what kind of sex do you dream of?
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