During my time as a sex therapist, I have listened to the reflections of thousands of men about their sexual feelings, fantasies, and intimate lives. Of course, I do not know what it is like to be a man, but I have had the opportunity to form an understanding of the male perception of sex. Here are some of the most common places.
1. Sex begins in the body
If female desire can be triggered by fantasies or emotions, then male desire is predominantly physical.
The reason is the high level of testosterone, which is responsible for arousal.
And it’s not just about youths: an adult man's body will instantly react to the sight of a naked woman (wife or partner) coming out of the shower.
2. Sex is hunger
For men, the craving for sex is similar to a yearning for sweets. They perceive every sexual episode as an opportunity for unexpected gastronomic pleasure, so their brains are always excited by the thought of a new experiment. Sweets almost never get boring, but without dessert, the day is not as good.
3. Sex is energy
For a man, sexuality fills relationships with potential and excitement. Sex gives him drive and energy to achieve his goals (and his partner). It also helps to cope with the daily routine, promising a reward at the end of the day.
4. Sex is excitement
In a man's understanding, sex is the most thrilling adventure and the most reliable way to experience pleasure. Therefore, every moment of flirting, every smile, sexual figure or image is a strike to a man's brain: he feels delight at the mere hint of anything related to sex.
5. Sex is love
The release of sexual energy allows men to feel that they are finally home. For them, sex is an expression of love, care, and support, so necessary after constant battles and problems in the outside world.
Although men are often accused of wanting "just sex," most perceive intimacy as an emotional, not just a physical connection.
For all these reasons, sex for men is a way of strengthening attachment.
6. Sex is a way to give love
There is a stereotype that men are selfish in bed, but in reality, many of them want to bring their partners the same pleasure they receive themselves. They often think and ask how to please a girl. And all of this is nothing more than an expression of their love.
In conclusion
Many women for safety reasons prefer to first enter into an emotional connection and then into a physical one. For men, it’s the opposite: they would rather start with sex, so as not to feel emotionally vulnerable. But ultimately, male sex drive is a good sign in relationships and another way of expressing love.
