Researchers studied Chronotype, gender, and time for sex. the preferences of 584 Poles of both sexes and found out at what times of day people want sex most. For women, the peak occurs during the periods from 6:00 to 9:00 and from 18:00 to 00:00. For men—from 9:00 to 12:00 and from 18:00 to 3:00.
Moreover, morning indicators were more closely related to the need for sex and availability of time for it than to actual physical desire. The thing is, in the mornings, our stress hormone cortisol is at its highest level, and orgasm actively fights against it.
There can be many reasons why couples try morning sex. One of them is—why not? Who said that sex should only happen at night, after a long day when there is little energy left, and in the morning you have to wake up early? Or both of you have such different and tight schedules that there is no time to be alone together. Or you have children.
Regardless of the reason you decided to move sex to the morning, the downsides you may encounter could hinder you. Let’s consider the main difficulties and how to cope with them.
Want to sleep in the morning
Not all of us are larks. Some people just need one thing in the morning—more hours of sleep. Sleep indeed directly affects libido: for example, a well-rested woman will want sex during the day 14% more than her sleep-deprived friend. But this is more relevant on weekends—on weekdays, we generally still have to get up early. And the process of waking up is a true hell for many and involves repeatedly hitting the snooze button for "just five more minutes."
Thoughts of upcoming sex can make the morning a bit more pleasant, since, in addition to the reluctance to get up, there are likely to be no negative emotions.
A clear mind and a half-naked partner in bed next to you—what better opportunity for experimentation.
Perhaps you won't even need to look for extra time: just start waking up after the first alarm signal, replacing half an hour of broken sleep to a bad melody with sex.
It is proven that after morning sex, you will be more productive throughout the day. The subjects linked this productivity not so much to physical sensations, but to moral satisfaction: “It feels like I went for a swim or worked out in the morning or checked off an important task before work started. It inspires and uplifts.” There is another study from the University of Cincinnati that showed morning sex could reduce stress for up to seven days, which means for the entire work week!
Yoga lovers often set aside time for their practice specifically in the morning, but an hour of sex burns about 280 kcal for men, 180 kcal for women, and boosts the immune system. Perhaps it’s worth replacing yoga or morning workouts with sex a few days a week?
Thinking only about work in the morning
In addition to sleepiness, author of the book "The Sex You’ve Always Dreamed Of" Dr. Tammy Nelson talks about another reason for the lack of mood for sex in the morning that her patients shared with her. Women (and any modern busy person) start planning their day in the morning, checking emails, and focusing on upcoming work. Advice: stop doing this, give yourself an extra half hour after waking up without touching your phone.
The situation where one partner is not in the mood for sex immediately is normal.
The responsibility for creating this desire falls on the other partner. Longer foreplay, black coffee, foot massage, rear-entry position without kissing or missionary position without much involvement of the partner in the process? Do it. The main thing is to discuss everything in advance and ensure that one partner’s inaction does not mean reluctance, but rather fits perfectly with their lazy morning state, where they want sex but don’t want to take active actions.
It’s worth remembering that in the morning, women may have issues with natural lubrication, even if they are aroused. Just keep a bottle of lubricant nearby the bed.
Not feeling sexy in the morning
Not only do most people want to go to the bathroom in the morning, but also brushing teeth and taking a quick shower wouldn't hurt. There's nothing wrong with keeping wet wipes and breath fresheners near the bed. Besides, no one is stopping you from going to the bathroom: wake your partner with kisses and then sneak away for a moment. Or start with a shower together and then move to the bed (because shower sex is terrible)—this won't ruin your mood.
If the issue of fresh breath and communication in the morning is critical for you, you can avoid kissing altogether.
Lux Alptraum, author of the erotic blog Fleshbot, recommends: “If you’re ready to get up, then stand up and let your partner enter from behind. The ability to whisper sexy things in their ear can compensate for the absence of kisses.” And for those who can’t move without coffee, she suggests this position: missionary, but with one leg bent and raised. If you can, place one leg on your partner’s shoulder. This position allows for close and deep penetration without much preparation.
If bad breath worries you more than anything else, then oral sex may be an ideal morning option. You might feel that genitals should also be refreshed after sleep, which is probably linked to the eternal paranoia and the desire to "polish" everything without a real reason. As a solution to this problem, keep a pack of wet wipes nearby.
Another advantage of morning sex: in the morning, both of you have the legal right to be sleepy, with messy hair and no makeup. You just don’t worry about seduction—you’re already in bed, warm after sleep and lovely.
This allows sex to be more intimate and calm. And there’s an additional bonus: after orgasm, you will look great, perhaps you won’t even need the usual morning beautification. It’s all about estrogen, which for a short time will improve your skin tone and texture, give you a blush, and add shine to your hair.
Too much light in the morning
Family therapists will answer you this way: being completely naked in front of your partner is an important stage in a relationship. You will have to do it sooner or later. And if your partner makes you feel comfortable and confident being naked, that shouldn't change due to the lighting.
You can look at it this way: “It’s bright in the morning. We love each other, and our bodies are beautiful. A great time of day to enjoy them!” In general, it’s not worth worrying too much about the lighting, as right after waking up your vision is still not fully activated. Everything is in soft focus, and you indeed seem more beautiful to each other.
Relationship expert Dr. Wendy Walsh explained this in more detail to Bustle.com. She compared the sleepy state to the effects of alcohol: it lowers inhibitions. While sober, you are very clearly aware of what’s happening around and your own prohibitions: for example, you can’t make yourself try a whip during sex. But lowering this vigilance allows sex to become brighter, and you—freer, letting the animal within you loose.
