SexNovember 21, 2021

7 unexpected reasons to visit a sex shop

1. Look the truth in the face

Yes, yes, exactly so. In a sex shop, it becomes clear that you do not know everything about pleasure. That you hide secret desires. That you are afraid of something, and of something you did not expect. That you have a hypocritical attitude towards something and are not ready to accept it.

A tour of a sex shop is like a psychoanalysis session where your sexuality is explored.

Sometimes you have to admit that you are not a sex giant and not a guru in bed. Sometimes it turns out that your sexual life is as boring as a sex education lesson. For example, you see clitoral butterflies in front of you that do not interfere with penetration, you learn that vibrators can stimulate not only the vagina and not only for women. Or you look at costumes for role plays and understand that it is funny to you. And this lingerie will look on you not sexy but disgusting, so it’s time to go to the gym.

A sex shop primarily reveals the truth about you, and it is not always pleasant. But there is a bonus: it can be turned to your advantage and transformed into a source of pleasure.

2. Step over stereotypes

This is not the main thing that happens in a sex shop. But it’s high time to understand that missionary position, oral sex, and teasing nipples are not all there is to sex. And no, porn won’t teach you anything, because there everything is quite banal and boring. But in a sex shop, there is so much to make you feel good that it’s dizzying.

It is not shameful to admit that you need a special lubricant. It is not shameful to admit that you like additional stimulation of erogenous zones that are not even considered erogenous. In a sex shop, a lot can be done.

3. Start calling things by their names

First of all - the genitals and everything that surrounds them. It’s not “pee-pee” and not “well, where it is.” Everything in the world has a name. Listen to how freely the sex shop seller calls a penis a penis, a clitoris - a clitoris, and a scrotum - a scrotum. And everything else is named as it should be. Learn, it will help to talk with your partner later.

4. Learn to talk about sex with other people

This point directly follows from the previous one. To say something to your partner, you need to name the organ and explain what to do with it. Nothing develops your sexual vocabulary better than regular visits to a sex shop and discussing the pros and cons of different toys with the seller. Then you will be surprised how easily you can explain to your lover what you need without using vague euphemisms like: "Well, make me feel good there, but not that good, but this way."

5. Discover how far progress has come

If you think that a sex shop is a fence of rubber penises and a rack with costumes “for a children's party”, then you are stuck in time about twenty years ago. Firstly, vibrators and various toys now look so much that it is sometimes hard to associate them with sexual items at all. Secondly, they can do so much that a person themselves will never learn to do.

A trip to a good sex shop is somewhat reminiscent of visiting a polytechnic museum: materials, properties, modes. Everything is modern, innovative and groundbreaking.

6. Remove internal limitations

Believe me, sex shop sellers have seen something scarier than a couple wanting to have sex differently, but do not know how. The key here is to relax and look around, not be afraid to open and touch the displayed goods, feel them, see how they work. You might discover desires in yourself that you did not suspect, and some toys will literally jump into your hands and make you buy them.

7. Learn to ignore others

We often write that the opinions of others should not affect you and that it’s time to throw out of your head all thoughts like “what will they think of me.” Going into a sex shop is a great practice for this skill.

Yes, everyone is looking at where you are going. Yes, there are other shoppers in the sex shop, and every now and then they glance at you. Who cares.

You will leave the store and go for pleasure, while others will either envy or be indignant. However, what difference does it make to you?

And do not forget to ask for a signature bag with the store logo, otherwise typically, sex shops give modest, unremarkable opaque bags. That’s not our method: we are not afraid of others’ opinions.