Naturally, you don't yet know what your new partner likes and which touches especially excite them. So, relax and use the advice that was shared by the author of the blog TheLonelySerb, Natasha Ivanovich.
1. Don’t rush
To build a connection with your partner, there’s no need to jump straight into sex. Yes, it’s an important part of a relationship, but there’s no urgent need to engage in it right at the beginning. Sex can strengthen the bond, but that bond should also come through communication and other forms of intimacy.
There is no one right rule that states when you should transition to intimacy in a new relationship. Friends may advise one thing, parents another. So, the most important thing is to discuss the situation with your partner.
Yes, yes, this is a separate reason for awkwardness, but if you can’t talk about sex, should you even be engaging in it? The question may seem old-fashioned, but if you’re not comfortable enough with each other to discuss this topic, then it’s better to hold off on intimacy itself.
2. Discuss how long you’re willing to wait
There are different options: wait for a couple of dates, a few months, or even postpone sex until marriage. You know what works best for you, but your preferences may differ from your partner’s views. So, this is yet another reason to discuss the situation together.
3. Talk about contraception
No one wants to get a dangerous infection or accidentally become pregnant, so make sure to resolve this issue before having sex. Choose methods of protection that work for both of you.
4. Share what you like
If you don’t share your tastes, your partner won’t know about them. Talk about any fetishes or special preferences you have. There’s nothing strange or shameful in this: different things excite different people. So, speak about them.
5. Don’t neglect foreplay
Yes, you want to jump right into penetration, but don’t rush. Take time for foreplay: kissing, hugging, oral sex, getting to know your partner's body.
If you hurry, you’ll miss the chance to really stimulate yourself and the other person. And sex is especially good when you’re both on the same wavelength. Plus, this will also help you understand what your partner likes.
6. Remember that everything can't be mind-blowing from the start
This is a very important point. Even if there’s amazing chemistry between you, it doesn’t guarantee that sex will be good right away. And if you don’t talk about what you don’t like, it won’t get better. Don’t be afraid to admit such things; otherwise, your partner may not guess what to do to make you more comfortable.
7. Save the Kama Sutra for another time
Of course, you want to show off your skills, but you don’t have to do it right away. Save interesting positions for next time — you’ll have time for experiments later. For now, perfect the basic movements. Moreover, if you try everything, it will be harder to spice up sex later.
8. Praise your partner for what you enjoyed
It will take a while for each of you to understand what the other enjoys. Usually, in the beginning, everyone is shy and leaves the other person's actions uncommented. But this is not a very good approach. To ensure your partner understands what you liked, praise them at the right time.
9. Accept awkward moments
Sex can’t be all clean and elegant and go smoothly. We are all human, so different awkward moments are inevitable. Laugh at them and continue.
