Sexologists have calculated that to prepare Women become sexually aroused as quickly as men for sexual intercourse, both men and women need about 10 minutes. During this time, the body warms up in the literal sense: blood pressure rises, heart rate accelerates, blood flows to all strategic places, and the temperature in the genital area increases by about 2 °C.
Women produce lubrication, the cervix rises slightly, elongating the vaginal canal. In addition, the Elevation of pain threshold by vaginal stimulation in women pain threshold increases one and a half to two times, which means that the risk of unpleasant sensations is minimized.
Excitement is accompanied by a powerful release of the pleasure hormone — dopamine and the bonding hormone — oxytocin. Areas of the brain responsible for emotions and physical perception begin to operate at higher speeds.
Conclusion: without proper foreplay, sex can turn from pleasure into boring and even painful mechanical movements. Of course, you don't want that. That's why we're sharing some proven ideas for warming up. You can start right now.
Schedule an intimate date in your business calendar
9:00 — morning meeting. 12:00 — lunch with a business partner. 15:00 — negotiations with a client. 21:00 — sex. Passion, of course, loves spontaneity. But from time to time, it’s worth planning a date and heating yourself up with thoughts of pleasure at the end of a busy workday.
Flirt online during the day
Researchers believe that sexting — exchanging intimate messages and photos — improves Most Adults Are Sexting and That May Not Be a Bad Thing sexual life in stable couples. American sexologists even recommend 88% of U.S. adults said they had sexted engaging in online flirting for spouses who complain of mutual cooling. Moreover, words, in this case, work better than images of the naked body.
Call unexpectedly and make an indecent proposal
This technique is best used if you know your partner well and trust them. It’s good if your verbal message contains intimate details known only to the two of you.
Touch each other casually
Accidental touches and secret caresses in public places can be a powerful trigger for excitement.
“We were at the museum for the official opening of an exhibition when my girlfriend discreetly rubbed her breasts against my arm. She did it again while we were staring at the next painting. And again — near the sculpture. We were surrounded by serious people who suspected nothing about our game, and it turned us on even more,” shares the experience of a 41-year-old B. on one of the sex forums.
By the way, he and his partner never made it home, getting cozy in a supply room.
Engage the feet
He and she are sitting at a table in a restaurant, visiting, or in their own kitchen. She discreetly removes her shoes and gently runs her foot up his calf, first from the inside, then from the outside. Surely you've seen what they call footsie — secret flirting with feet — in movies. Believe me, under-the-table flirting is just as good in reality.
Wear super sexy lingerie under ordinary clothes
And casually let your partner know about it. Playful lacy bra under a strict business jacket. A transparent robe under a flower-patterned home bathrobe. Thongs under boyfriend jeans. The main thing is that your partner knows what to aim for.
Play strangers
Yes, you've been together for many years and have three children. But imagine that you are meeting for the first time and know nothing about each other. Ask provocative questions, flirt, act as if you will part forever tomorrow.
A wild night with a stranger is one of the most popular sexual fantasies. And how many “dirty” plots have been born from the children's fairy tale about Little Red Riding Hood! You can make this fairy tale a reality without taking any risks.
Talk about "it"
A lot has been said about sexual conversations a lot. Let's remind you of the important thing. Tease each other with words, be frank, but don’t turn the conversation into a deep psychoanalysis with a soulful striptease. That will definitely kill the desire in its infancy.
Watch porn without undressing
Yes, yes, in your clothes, accompanying the viewing with innocent hugs. Spoiler: almost no couple can stand it until the final frames.
Give a striptease
To seduce a man and excite yourself, it’s not necessary to be a champion pole dancer. There’s nothing difficult in slowly unbuttoning your blouse, flirtatiously lifting your skirt, and slowly, caressing your legs, removing sheer tights. An old trick, but it works every time.
Wash or shave each other
Taking a bath or shower together brings you incredibly close and sets an erotic mood. Slowly wash each other. Or even shave.
“She loves to shave my beard before we make love — another useful revelation we found on a sex forum. — Our bodies are so close when she runs a blade across my face… I feel a special care. And then we very quickly finish together.”
Explore the "secondary" erogenous zones
Gently pinch the earlobes, press your lips against the back of the wrists, kiss the fingertips, pat the buttocks. The main thing is to avoid the main erogenous zones. They will have their turn. For now, explore the non-obvious sensitive spots.
Blindfold each other
Here, as in playing strangers, the exciting effect of novelty, danger, and the unknown comes into play. Moreover, by "turning off" sight, you simultaneously enhance the receptiveness of the other senses. The result is heightened tactile perception.
Show how you can handle sex toys
“I walked into the bedroom and saw my wife playing with a vibrator…” — such confessions always make it to the top of the "most exciting moments in life" lists. Master the adult toys to diversify your sexual script.
Experiment with hot and cold
Another way to enhance the body's response is to play with temperature contrasts. Glide over the "hot spots" with an ice cube, squeezing it with your lips. Cool the area of skin you just kissed with ice or simply your breath. Then the next hot touch will be even more pleasant.
Masturbate together
First of all, it’s informative: this way you'll learn what truly pleases your partner. Secondly, it’s incredibly arousing. Thirdly, at some point, you'll want to help each other achieve pleasure. Don’t deny yourself!
