This is one of the most popular positions. During the study The Most-Searched Sex Positions By State , published in the American magazine Ask Men, search queries on Google across different states were analyzed. It turned out that people most frequently searched for information specifically about the position when the woman is on top.
Many consider it too boring and primitive. The girl sits on her partner and does everything herself… What else can be added? In fact, there are plenty of options.
1. Involve your partner in the process
When the woman is on top, the initiative shifts to her, but that doesn't mean the man should just lie there and do nothing. Ask him to help you — to slightly move his hips. This will add sharpness to the sensations, and you will also tire more slowly.
2. Change the rhythm
If you move at the same pace, it will quickly get boring. Experiment: speed up, slow down, move your hips back and forth or in circles. This way, you will not only diversify sex but also find the most suitable rhythm at which you will reach orgasm the fastest.
3. Fight fatigue
You can do this in two ways.
Squat
In the rider position, the main load is on the woman's legs. Therefore, you can tire and get out of breath quickly. To prevent this, distribute your weight evenly. Sit back, and use your hands to support yourself on the bed. It will be much easier this way.
However, girls may feel that they look unattractive in the eyes of their partner. But this is just speculation and complexes. Don’t be shy about your body. If you only think about how you look during sex, you will not experience pleasure.
Train your legs
You may tire quickly due to weak glutes and muscles of the inner thighs. This means you need to train your glutes, large, long, and short adductors, as well as the pectineus and thin muscles.
Perform leg abductions, lunges, squats, and deadlifts. To increase the load, use dumbbells, resistance bands, or fitness bands.
4. Prepare lubricant
It will make penetration pleasant and painless. While a lubricant may not be needed during vaginal sex, it is essential for anal sex. The anus does not have natural lubrication, and without it, sex can lead to tears and fissures. Additionally, it will be painful.
5. Engage erogenous zones
One of the advantages of the position is the free hands of both partners. The man can caress the woman’s thighs, buttocks, abdomen, and breasts without interfering with her movement. Meanwhile, the girl can comfortably stroke her beloved body or help herself with a vibrator.
If the partner chooses the reverse cowgirl and leans slightly back towards the man's face, it will be convenient for him to stimulate the clitoris with his fingers or a sex toy. Additional touches will lead to orgasm faster.
6. Try to slightly change the cowgirl position
The classic looks like this:
But "Woman on Top" can be different; here are a few variations.
Cowgirl leaning forward
It is performed like a regular cowgirl, with the only difference being that the woman lays her chest on the man. In this position, kissing is comfortable if you move at a slow pace. Also, the partner will be able to hug the girl, caressing her back, buttocks, and thighs.
Reverse cowgirl
In this case, the partner sits facing away from the man.
Reverse cowgirl leaning forward
For this, from the previous position, the woman needs to lean forward and lay her chest on the man's legs. In this position, you can try double penetration. For this, the partner will need a dildo or anal beads.
Asian cowgirl
It differs from the classic in that the partner squats instead of pressing her knees to the floor. In this position, it is convenient to stimulate the clitoris with a hand or sex toy.
Angular cowgirl
The man lies on the edge of the bed so that his back and buttocks remain on it while his legs are propped against the floor. The woman sits on top, tilting slightly forward. In this position, the partner will be able to move in rhythm with the girl.
Amazons
The partner lies on her back, raises her legs up, bends her knees, and pulls them to her chest so they don't interfere with the girl. Meanwhile, she sits on the man, propping her knees against the floor.
The advantage is that the woman transfers part of her weight to the partner's thighs, so she doesn’t tire as much as in the usual cowgirl position.
Lunge
Here, the woman needs a bit of flexibility. The man lies on the bed with his legs slightly apart. The girl sits on top of him, bends one leg, and places it on the partner's hand or the bed. She extends the other leg behind her, making a lunge.
In this position, the partner not only gains pleasure but also trains her thigh muscles. Yes, this position is very tense. Therefore, the guy should help by lifting and lowering his beloved's buttocks with his hands.
7. Stock up on sex toys
When the woman is on top, she can stimulate her clitoris with her fingers. A vibrator, clitoral stimulator, or vibrating bullet can add a sharp edge to the sensations. It might seem that using a sex toy in this position is inconvenient. But if you lean back instead of forward, everything will be fine.
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8. Suggest trying BDSM
Of course, if your partner doesn’t mind you dominating. BDSM will add excitement to your relationship. Don't be afraid: this practice is not a deviation from the norm or a sign of mental instability. The study Psychological characteristics of BDSM practitioners found that BDSM practitioners are psychologically healthy individuals, and their indicators are even better than those of others.
You don't need to delve into the depths of subculture — simple things that anyone can try are enough. For example, nibbling on nipples, slapping, holding by the wrists, binding hands, using straps, and blindfolds.
What to buy
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9. Try anal sex
The anus has many nerve endings, making it very sensitive Anal Sex Safety and Health Concerns . Moreover, it grips the penis more tightly than the walls of the vagina. Such sex can provide a lot of pleasure to both partners if done slowly and carefully.
If this is the girl's first experience, the position of the cowgirl is perfect. The woman will be able to control the depth and angle of penetration herself, as well as set the pace.
Just don’t forget to change the condom if you switch back to vaginal or oral sex after anal. Bacteria from the intestine must not get on the penis, vagina, or mouth. This could lead to infection.
