The clitoris is arguably the most sensitive part of the female body. Its glans alone contains more than 8,000 nerve endings. For comparison, this is about twice as many as in the male penis.
The clitoris reacts so sensitively to touch that 67% of girls prefer that a man caresses the areas around it rather than the clitoris itself. This is stated in a study Women’s Experiences With Genital Touching, Sexual Pleasure, and Orgasm: Results From a U.S. Probability Sample of Women Ages 18 to 94 , published in the American Journal of “Sex and Marital Therapy.” Additionally, 1,055 surveyed women aged 18 to 94 detailed what movements and touches to the clitoris bring them the most pleasure. Here’s a brief summary.
1. Circle around
When researchers asked women about the sexual techniques they enjoy the most, three-quarters of respondents mentioned the following. They are not very fond of a man directly stimulating the clitoris. But it is extremely exciting when a partner circles around it: gently and tenderly drawing circles on the skin. This can be done with one or two fingers or with the tongue—the effect is equally magical.
2. Add a light, almost accidental touch
While drawing circles with one hand or tongue, use the fingers of your free hand to hint at the upcoming orgasm: occasionally, as if by accident, touch the glans of the clitoris. For example, try gently tapping it. This will set the rhythm of clitoral contractions that are the basis of clitoral orgasm.
3. Find the sensitive side
The same study showed that for 4 out of 10 women, the sensitivity of the clitoris is greater on one side—right or left. Therefore, when starting to caress, ask the woman which side's touches give her more vivid sensations. Or it might be worth finding out experimentally.
4. Draw with your tongue
Working with the clitoris can be turned into a game by using your imagination. For example, imagine that you are drawing a fence: move your finger or tongue in the clitoral area from bottom to top, as if building board by board. The second option—imitate the circular motions of a car windshield wiper side to side with your finger or tongue.
5. Remember about depth
Usually, when touching the clitoris, men focus only on its external, protruding area. But this organ also has an internal part hidden beneath the skin: its two legs extend up to 10 cm into the body.
Their sensitivity is lower than that of the glans. However, the legs should not be forgotten either. Gently but firmly massage with your fingers the areas on both sides of the clitoris, located 3–5 centimeters below (closer to the anal opening) its glans.
6. Play like on a harmonica
Shape your lips into the letter “o” and wrap them around the glans of the clitoris. Tease it with your tongue and then start gently blowing air into it—as if you are playing a harmonica. The warm moist breath and the vibrations created bring women surprisingly pleasant sensations.
7. Use water
Games with the clitoris can be started in the bath. With a handheld shower attachment, carefully massage the inner thighs and the area around the clitoris with warm water under a gentle stream, occasionally touching its glans.
8. Massage with the penis
This is one of the most arousing (according to the women themselves) techniques. Use your own erect penis to massage the clitoris and the surrounding area. You can hold it in your hands like a vibrator. During caresses, sometimes lift the hood with your penis — the small strip of skin that covers the clitoris from above. This will bring the woman especially vivid sensations.
