Fingering is a sexual technique, the main active elements of which are fingers. In fact, this is where the name of the practice comes from: finger in English means "finger".
By caressing sensitive points on the body with fingers, one can not only give pleasure to a partner but also bring them to orgasm. However, fingering is also good for self-pleasure: for example, masturbation is one of its kinds.
Many use fingering exclusively as foreplay. A sort of appetizer to the main course — regular sex. And that's a pity. Fingers can provide sensations that overshadow standard vaginal orgasm. You just need to know how to use them.
6 moments to consider before engaging in fingering
1. Make sure of your partner's consent
Some people like it when a hand slips under their underwear. Others, on the contrary, can’t stand it. Both options are normal. All people are different, and if your partner does not like fingering or, say, oral sex, you should not insist. Remember the principle of consent.
The first important rule of fingering: if one of the participants does not find it pleasurable, it should stop.
Find other ways to please each other.
2. Don't be afraid to try
Sexual techniques are such a thing: you cannot know if you will like it until you try. Therefore, it makes sense for every couple to engage their fingers and see what happens.
3. Try to stimulate yourself with fingers on your own
Perhaps you have already had experience with fingering, and you didn't like it. But that doesn't mean your experience with this sexual technique is over. Maybe your previous partner fingered too quickly, roughly, or too monotonously, and that turned you off.
Try to explore yourself — work with your fingers on your own in the intimate area. This will help you understand which movements you enjoy the most. What tempo do you like — fast and active or slow and gentle? At what angle should fingers enter to give you maximum pleasure.
Exploring yourself is an important step towards truly mind-blowing fingering.
4. Be ready to show
Once you understand your personal preferences, teach your partner the correct (for your case, of course) caresses. Guide their hand, show your favorite techniques, and don’t hesitate to vocalize if something doesn’t feel good or, conversely, some movement brings you almost orgasmic sensations.
5. Don't be afraid of role reversal
In fingering, there is no strict distribution of roles. Yes, most often, it's the man who fingers, while the woman just enjoys. However, if partners are not afraid of experimenting in bed, one can also experiment with prostate massage — after all, it's called the male G-spot for a reason. However, that's a separate story.
6. Prepare your hands
Naturally, they should be clean. But there are also two factors that directly influence the success of fingering.
First, take care of your nails: it’s best that they are short, and they must have smooth rounded edges. Even the slightest hangnail can ruin a magical evening.
Secondly, buy lubricant. It’s not a fact that it will be needed, but it’s good to have on hand. Lubricant creates a gliding effect, making finger penetration into the body softer, more careful, and enjoyable.
Some use lubricated latex gloves for fingering. Putting them on can be an exciting element of finger play.
5 tips to make you a fingering master
Let’s clarify right away: the recommendations below are given for a couple where the leading role is taken by the man. Fingering techniques that women can perform will be covered in another article.
1. Start from afar
Spend time warming up, kissing and stroking the woman’s body: this will increase her arousal level. Remove her clothing, leaving only her underwear. Stroke her breasts, thighs, and buttocks with your hands. And touch her intimate area as if accidentally, gliding over with your palm.
When the girl is without panties, continue to use your palm to touch her labia without spreading them. Only when your partner is sufficiently aroused, gently spread the labia with one finger and enter her. At first, not too deeply and with soft, thrusting movements. Then return to caressing the closed labia with your palm.
2. Choose a comfortable position
There are several options that are considered the most comfortable.
- Sitting. The girl sits facing the partner, leaning back against a pillow. Her legs are bent at the knees and widely spread. This provides maximum access to the vagina and clitoris. This is a very revealing position that is more suited for partners who are well acquainted and trust each other.
- Facing each other lying down. In this case, the man can't see what his hand is doing. But the girl can regulate the depth and activity of finger entry by bending the top leg at the knee or, conversely, pressing it against the bottom one. Plus, it’s also convenient for kissing in this position.
- Lying in the spooning position. Both lie on their sides, the girl having her back to the partner. In this position, the man can use one hand to caress her breasts, while the other performs fingering in the intimate area. The girl also has the opportunity, as in the previous option, to regulate the depth and activity of entry by lifting or lowering her upper leg.
3. Don't forget about the clitoris
This is the most sensitive part of a woman's body. Touching the clitoris can trigger a powerful orgasm. So don't miss the chance to press the coveted "button" during fingering.
For example, occasionally gently glide your finger up and down the clitoris. Or draw circles around the protruding spot. Or place the clitoris between two fingers and move them in circular motions. The main thing is to do this as softly and gently as possible: excessive pressure in this area will be uncomfortable for most women.
4. Add unusual movements
Often, when pleasuring a woman with fingers, men focus on one type of motion — back and forth: either inserting fingers deeper into the vagina or almost pulling them out. This is pleasant too, but somewhat monotonous. Here are a few techniques to help diversify this dullness.
Attention! Before proceeding to this stage, make sure the girl is already sufficiently aroused. Use lubricant if necessary.
Enticing movements
Insert your middle or index finger into the vagina so that its pad touches the front wall. Now gently begin to bend and unbend the finger, as if trying to entice someone.
The pad of the finger will be pressing against the wall of the vagina during such movements. Move the finger deeper or closer to the entrance to find the spot on the vaginal wall that feels best. If your partner likes it, you can add another finger and make enticing movements with both.
Vibration
Insert two fingers into the vagina. Slightly bend them and in that position begin to make light vibrating movements with your hand. If you are lucky, the vibration will stimulate that legendary G-spot, which can give a woman unforgettable orgasms.
Corkscrew
With one or two fingers, make a circular motion, as if you are twisting them into the vagina. The second option for this technique is to use your fingers to mimic a spoon, as if you are gently scooping something from the vagina.
Experiment with the depth and angle of entry, as well as the degree of pressure on the vaginal walls.
Double touch
Insert two fingers into the vagina. With the remaining thumb outside, start making circular stroking movements around the clitoris. At the same time, caress the vagina from the inside with your fingers.
Rider
Insert one or two fingers into the vagina at a comfortable depth for the girl and freeze. Give your partner the opportunity to move on your fingers, lifting and lowering her pelvis, as if the rider, and moving her hips.
5. Invent your own techniques
The techniques listed can serve as a foundation. But don’t limit yourself to just them. Quality fingering encourages experimentation. Try to stimulate the vagina and clitoris from different angles, with different fingers (for example, with a pinky or thumb), and with all sorts of movements.
You might invent your own original technique that will provide your partner with orgasm after orgasm. Experiment.
