This sexual practice may seem controversial. But fisting can bring a lot of pleasure if you understand how it works. And, of course, follow safety techniques.
What is fisting and why do people like it
Fisting (from English fist) is a somewhat more advanced variation of fingering. Only during fisting, the entire fist is inserted into the vagina instead of fingers.
Why? For the same reason people try sex on the boss's desk while he goes out for coffee, or jump out of planes, or engage in other extreme practices. Adrenaline is what gives such entertainments an incredibly vivid taste.
An additional cherry on this cake is the all-encompassing feeling of fullness that arises when a partner works carefully with their fist. Moreover, fisting requires a high level of trust in one another, which enhances the sense of intimacy. As a result, you get a dizzying cocktail. Once tried, lovers often return to fisting again.
However, for the process to go smoothly and later create a desire to repeat, some simple rules must be followed.
How to make fisting safe
1. Avoid alcohol or stimulants
These substances stimulate sexual desire and often have pain-relieving effects. As a result, you risk going too far. And in the morning, the partner, seemingly having experienced more than one orgasm, grimacing from pain, will say that she will never play such sex games again.
2. Use more lubricant. Even more
Pre-stock up on lubricants and be prepared to use them as generously as possible. This will ease penetration.
American psychologist and sex coach Liz Powell recommends Here’s What You Need To Know About Fisting choose thick silicone lubricants, as water-based lubricants can be sticky. Additionally, the expert advises wearing latex gloves. They serve three functions.
- Improve slipping.
- Protect against scratches and potential infections. If the partner's hand is gloved, he definitely cannot harm the delicate vaginal mucosa. Furthermore, if you practice both vaginal and anal fisting, changing gloves when switching from one type to another helps prevent urinary tract infections.
- Become an element of sex play. Imagine: the partner pulls on a thin black glove and… This can be a very exciting moment.
3. Prepare your hands
Here is what must be done, even if you plan to use a latex glove. There are no guarantees that at the peak of excitement you won't want to get rid of it — let your hands be ready for this.
- Trim your nails, rounding them off as much as possible. Make sure there is no dirt under them.
- Remove hangnails that can scratch or damage the glove.
- Ensure there are no rough calluses on your fingers.
- Wash your hands thoroughly with soap.
- Remove rings. Yes, even the wedding one.
4. Be patient
Fisting is precisely the event where haste is not only inappropriate but even dangerous. Move slowly.
Start with the penetration of one finger, bring the partner to excitement, then add two or three more. Be prepared to pause or stop the experiment altogether if the girl complains of discomfort or pain. Fisting is about pleasure, not sadomasochism.
Only if the woman has already reached excitement and is ready to go further, continue. Curl your straight fingers into the shape of a duck's bill. You can see what this looks like with a silicone fisting dildo (the one on the left, with the hand on the right for comparison).
By the way, such dildos are sold in sex shops, and the device would be worthwhile to acquire for the first session.
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5. Follow the breathing
To facilitate penetration, the partner should breathe slowly and deeply, relaxing the vagina on the inhale and tightening on the exhale. The partner's fingers should only move forward a little during the inhale.
6. Maintain complete control of the process
A fist is not fingers and not a dildo. It should not be used actively, as it can lead to injuries.
When the hand is inside the vagina, try to gently squeeze the fist, keeping the thumb inside. Move the hand (slowly and carefully!) only if the partner is ready for it. Somewhere around here, an orgasm is possible, but don't try to bring the woman to it at all costs. It may take several sessions before both partners achieve the necessary skill and learn to relax.
7. Carefully remove the fist
The exit from the vagina is no less important a process than the insertion. Gently unclench your fist and remove your hand carefully and slowly. The woman can assist this by coughing slightly: the cough will make the muscles tense and push the hand out of the body.
8. Be grateful for the new experience
Even if fisting was not enjoyable for your couple, at least now you know your own limits. And if everything worked out, enjoy: you have discovered a completely new facet of sexual pleasures.
