Position 69 is an exciting but at the same time very controversial option for a sex game. It's enough to listen to the complaints of users Reddit: "Too uncomfortable, awkward. I can't focus on my own pleasure because at the same time I have to actively pay attention to the girl."
"My partner likes this position, but I have weak back muscles, I get too tired being on top." "I can't get rid of the thought of how my partner is watching me. Also, when I'm on top, my legs are tense, and because of that, I can't experience orgasm." "I hate it."
Well, the complaints about this position are often indeed justified. However, they can be minimized if you approach the process a bit more attentively. Here are a few life hacks to help you love the magnificent 69.
1. Start with a shower
You can do it alone — if you want to thoroughly, without prying eyes, carry out hygiene procedures in the intimate area. You can do it together: in this case, a shared shower can become an exciting element of foreplay.
By the way, if you went to the shower together, you can ask your partner to wash you properly "down there". This will help you get rid of concerns about how you will look in their eyes in position 69.
2. Get in the mood for play
There are serious sexual practices. There are moments for thoughtful, diligent sex. But position 69 is not about that at all. Don't set your mind on it as a chore. It's fun. Playfulness. A tender game that becomes all the more interesting the more improvisation it contains.
Try this option, for example. Lay your partner on the bed — so that their head is slightly hanging off the edge. Stand on the floor next to them, starting with a passionate kiss. Then slowly, while continuing to caress and kiss inch by inch, move down their body until your lips reach the groin.
When this happens, your thighs will be next to your partner's face. The starting position for the perfect 69 is ready.
3. Don't forget that you have hands
Position 69 can indeed seem exhausting if, while in it, you only work with your tongue and lips. But you have warm palms and tender fingers — don't forget about them!
When your lips and tongue need a break, give them one by caressing your partner's perineum and testicles (or vagina) with your hands.
4. Use a small vibrator
Oral sex in position 69 is not very convenient, and a vibrator can take your place if both your lips and tongue, as well as your fingers, get tired. Moreover, a small dildo will bring fresh sensations to your intimate play.
5. Remember the "side" option
The vertical position 69, where one partner lies on their back and the other hovers over them, is good for quick oral sex. But if you plan to make 69 the "main dish," that is, dedicate more than a few minutes to it, it's better to prefer another position — lying on your side.
In this case, you won't have to strain your back or leg muscles. Also, you can use each other's thighs as a pillow — so your neck doesn't hurt.
6. Just enjoy
Don't expect overwhelming orgasms from 69: in this position, it's really hard to focus on your own sensations. It's more for entertainment. For exploring your partner's body. For discovering yourself — how ready you are to trust your loved one.
Try to enjoy this "learning game." Experiment, act tenderly or decisively, work actively with your tongue or focus on sucking movements with your lips. Do what interests you, and allow your partner to do the same.
69 is one of the most intimate sex positions, and it can give you an incredible sense of closeness. Take advantage of that.
