Many dream of it, but few dare. Throw away prejudices and allow yourself to have new sensations. How not to spoil your first threesome experience is told by our reader, who preferred not to reveal his name.
Preface
When the tips from this article won’t help:
- if you met by chance for one time;
- if you are two guys or two girls who right now want thrilling sensations;
- if you do not care what happens after, you don’t plan on repeating it and you are not particularly concerned whether everyone will be satisfied.
Here I will give tips that will help a couple gain new sensations and not get burned on it.
Why is it necessary to diversify your sex life? Passion fades over time, and this is a proven fact. If you have been together for more than three years, you already understand what I mean. My wife and I have been together for much longer and still maintain interest in each other. A trio is one way. This article is for established couples who seek to diversify their sexual life. I will share my experience from a man's perspective.
First Experience
If you see that your partner doesn’t like something during the process, take a break, pull them into the bathroom and talk.
Tell each other how much you love one another. Relax, calm down, inspire — you know best what to say to your spouse. And if discomfort disappears — continue. If not — it's better to finish for today. You will have another chance to try.
If you have not had such experience before, do not rush to invite good acquaintances. If something goes wrong, you risk spoiling your relationship with the third participant for a long time. If there are any doubts, start by practicing with a professional. Watch each other’s reactions. After finishing, discuss whether you liked everything, and be sure to show how dear you are to each other. It's very important to understand that your partner values you.
So, you made the decision. Next, you need to determine the format.
Formats
MFM
The simplest format is MFM. It is simple because it is easy to satisfy a woman this way and the process almost always ends successfully.
Pros:
1. Two men can satisfy a woman much more fully than one. Four hands, two mouths, two penises. Double penetration. Double pleasure. One of the most common fantasies for a woman is she and two macho men (or more). A lady feels like a queen being in the focus of attention of two men at once.
2. With some seduction from at least one of the participants, this method requires almost no preparation. A woman only needs to have trust, everything else will fall into place. Two men will always find something to do with a woman.
Joke— Why do you love group sex so much?
— Because there's a chance to slack off.
3. Everyone has heard about multiple orgasms in women. The male body is arranged differently. Men need time to recover after ejaculation, and a MFM trio is a perfect option for that. While one is engaged in active actions, the other rests, and vice versa. This can ensure hours of uninterrupted delight.
4. There is no danger of transferring microflora. If the invited man is wearing a condom, then no one will catch new microbes and fungi. Unlike the FFM format, where safety needs to be watched much more closely.
Cons:
1. A woman must trust at least one of the men and have justified trust. It is necessary for someone to hear: “Stop, I don’t want this.” Four strong hands in the heat of passion significantly reduce the partner's freedom, and it is easy to overlook that something is causing her discomfort. For example, in this specific position, friction may cause her pain. Moans of pleasure and moans of pain are hard to distinguish, especially if you are not very familiar with each other. There must be someone who can stop unpleasant actions for the woman, change the position or amplitude.
from the movie "Brother-2"Come on, what are you talking about...
Or, for example, she did not intend to engage in anal sex today. In the heat of the moment, two men can easily insist on their own. This is not coercion, no. After the next orgasm, exhausted, the girl may simply not have time or the ability to object. But later she will say: “No, I didn't want that, it just happened. I was against it, it was unpleasant for me.” And the impression will be spoiled, and there will be resentment. To avoid this, a stop word should be established.
2. In our country, homophobia is strong. Men need to be aware that they will end up in bed with another naked man with an erect penis. And there are absolutely no options to avoid accidental touches. If the sight of an erect jade rod next to you scares you, if you turn red from a suffocating wave when you slightly touch something — refrain from such adventures. Your psyche is more important.
The FFM format is much more complex.
Among men, there is a common legend that sex with two women is simply wow! A captivating picture emerges in front of the eyes: two beauties are dancing, kissing passionately, caressing each other, occasionally invitingly glancing at the man. Extremely excited, they call him over and, trembling with desire, pounce on him.
Nonsense.
from the movie "What Men Talk About"— Alex, do you want me to tell you,
how it would really be?— No, I don’t want to.
— But everyone wants.
— Okay, let’s hear it.
In nine out of ten cases, either one or both women immediately remain unsatisfied and unhappy with the past party, no matter what they tell you.
There are many reasons:
- the man paid her less attention than she wanted;
- the man spent too long with the second partner, while the first managed to cool off;
- the man became overexcited and finished too quickly;
- one of the partners turned out to be jealous;
- the women began to compare themselves and suffer from their imagined physical defects, and so on.
Pros:
1. It's very beautiful. The sight of two naked women in one bed is a delightful spectacle. Men, with rare exceptions, find lesbian erotica captivating. No wonder it's one of the most popular themes in the porn industry. Most women like it too.
2. The FFM format allows women's sexuality to flourish. Statistically, over 70% of women are bisexual or would like to try. Not all of them are ready to admit it even to themselves, and of that 70%, a significant portion will never experience it. A FFM trio is a great and safe way to explore this area of their sexuality.
Cons:
1. It's easy to spoil. The reasons I described above. The man will have to give it his all to satisfy both. This is really difficult, and all three risk remaining unsatisfied.
Moreover, women are more sensitive than men to any nuances in the mood of the trio and react to it. One unsuccessful joke — and the temperature of arousal drops by a dozen degrees. Or, for example, a woman usually drinks semi-sweet wine, but you bought brut.
And also, women are more shy with each other than with men. “Oh no, she will see my extra pounds on my thighs, horror, turn off the light!” FFM is a fragile system.
2. Considering the first point, one should prepare for such a meeting in advance. If the partners are not very familiar with each other, they should get to know each other better. Find out taste preferences. Make sure the invited girl is not afraid and trusts you. Once again, tell your woman how much you love her, it can never hurt. Make sure that your woman does not see a threat in the invited one. And other little things, which are discussed below.
3. In the FFM format, it is necessary to maintain increased safety measures. You can transfer vaginal microflora from one woman to another not only through a penis but also through fingers, lips, and other body parts. For example, you are caressing one of them with your fingers. Now before engaging with the other, you need to wash your hands or sanitize them in some way.
4. Among women, there is a significant percentage of those who do not accept sex or even just erotic games with a person of their own gender. And if you have such a girl (or both) in your couple — they won't like it. You can try: who knows, maybe they will awaken interest. Sometimes that happens, but probably not the first time.
For a man to satisfy two women alone, he needs to be a sex giant. In our age of poor ecology, such individuals are extremely rare. But there's another option: cooperation.
A quality FFM format is a team game, where two partners engage with the third.
Start with the invited girl. Together with your regular partner, focus all your attention on her. Then, after climax and rest, switch roles and engage with your woman, again together.
You are lucky if the partners in your trio are inclined towards bisexuality. Then the idea of caressing another participant with you will be well-received. But what to do if they are strictly heterosexual?
To help you and not be left out, they don’t need to act like lesbian pornstars, perform cunnilingus or squeeze each other's breasts. Even kissing is not necessary. Simple harmless caresses on the back, abdomen, legs. Kisses on the neck, shoulders, and ears. Petting of heads and hair. Even just hugging, looking into each other’s eyes and encouragingly smiling while the man fully caresses her. Trust me, this excites all three even in the case of 100% heterosexuality.
This method significantly increases the chances of success. Your partner must understand and accept it, preferably both girls.
General Practical Tips
1. The most important thing: all three must like each other. If at least one participant has unpleasant feelings towards any other — sex will only exacerbate it. Nothing will come of this combination. Stop and start looking for a partner again.
2. To interrupt an orgy that has gone too far, establish a safe word with your regular partner. Anyone who hears it must immediately stop the action. I have detailed in which situations this is necessary above.
3. Some sexologists recommend refraining from sex a few days before the meeting, as well as incorporating aphrodisiac products into your diet. I agree with them.
4. It is better to meet on neutral territory. An invited partner — a girl or a man — will feel awkward in the hosts' apartment no matter what. Unless you have a large country house with a bath and guest room. In the hosts’ apartment, a tactful person will be bound by the norms of behavior of a guest, while in a rented apartment or hotel room, everyone is equal. On neutral territory, it will be easier for you to relax.
A rented apartment with nice decor would be best. Then a hammam. According to some girls, a sauna is good because if an awkward pause in conversation suddenly arises, you can always fill it with the words “Let’s go to the pool!”
As a last resort — a hotel room. Not everyone will like going to a room together in front of the security. The worst option is a beaten-up Khrushchyovka. Don’t even consider it.
If you have the opportunity, ensure the cleanliness of the premises in advance. Bring slippers. Dirty floors and dust on furniture are a sure way to spoil the first impression of an evening that has not yet started.
5. Create a romantic atmosphere. Soft music, candles, flowers, chocolate, dim light. This is important for a woman, even when it’s just the two of you. And in such a sensitive matter as a trio, romance is three times more important.
If you are not sure all participants enjoy scented candles, do not use them; take ordinary ones instead. Some people find their smell unpleasant.
You can choose music yourself or take one of the specialized podcasts, for example Sexy Lounge.
6. I have heard advice to start the evening with watching porn. In my opinion, this is questionable and strongly depends on the partners’ preferences. You decide.
7. Stock up on fruits, water, and light snacks. For some, a light snack is half a banana, for others — half a grilled chicken. Everything is relative, so it’s worth finding out in advance what kind of snacks and drinks everyone prefers. It’s better to have less food and lighter drinks. Exclude strong alcohol. Water must definitely be provided!
8. Have enough lubricant and contraceptives on hand. Prepare disinfectants like "Miramistin." They can be used to treat a man’s hands during the act if you are having an FFM, and genital organs afterwards.
Good luck to you, and go for it!
