Orgasm is a delicate matter. Even if you have sensual, quality sex, even if it's out of love, it’s not a fact that you will experience that peak of pleasure for which everything was conceived.
Most of all, in this regard, women are shortchanged (or rather, not shortchanged). According to the averaged statistics provided by The Most Important Sexual Statistic the journal Psychology Today, about half of women experience orgasm during intercourse… sometimes. About 20% — very rarely. And 5% — never at all.
There are many different ways to restore women's orgasms and make them more vivid and tangible. The "bridge" technique, proposed by the well-known American sex therapist Helen Kaplan, is one of the most effective Chapter 104. Treatment of Orgasmic Dysfunction in Women. Nina Williams and Sandra R. Leiblum techniques.
What is the "bridge" technique
A bridge is a structure connecting two points that are separated in space by some chasm. By this analogy, Kaplan named the technique she developed.
The method suggests that a woman first familiarize herself with orgasm in general. It doesn't matter how it's induced. And then — to combine this familiar orgasm with classical intercourse.
You need to act in two stages.
1. Learn to masturbate
And naturally, get pleasure from it. Intentional learning of masturbation is one of the "whales" of female sex therapy. By caressing the clitoris, inserting fingers deeper, a woman is essentially getting to know her own body. She studies its sensual responses. She learns to get pleasure.
Masturbation usually happens in solitude, which is another plus. The woman relaxes, stops thinking about how she looks, and becomes more sensitive to herself rather than her partner's needs.
Masturbation is one of the most effective ways The role of masturbation in the treatment of orgasmic dysfunction to learn to experience orgasm.
If you already know how to reach the peak of pleasure with your own fingers — that's great. There's literally one step left to achieving orgasm during sex with a man.
2. Transfer the experience of masturbation to classical sex
This is the main stage of the "bridge" technique. It comes down to the following. During intercourse, a woman — alone or with the help of a partner — actively stimulates the clitoris. Only when there are mere seconds until orgasm does classical vaginal sex begin: the man enters his partner and in a few thrusts brings her to climax.
Helen Kaplan suggested that after several such acts, a woman would solidify the connection between penetrative sex and orgasm. And thus, she would begin to receive maximum pleasure more often, and these moments would be just as vivid and sensual as during masturbation.
In fact, Kaplan was right: today the "bridge" technique is actively used in sex therapy to help couples improve their sexual lives.
What can the "bridge" technique involve
This method should not be viewed solely as therapeutic. The "bridge" can become a full-fledged intimate game, a sort of foreplay to real intercourse.
For this, you can diversify the masturbation stage. For example, conduct it:
- Orally. In this case, the clitoris is stimulated not by the woman, but by the man — using his tongue. The involvement of fingers is also welcome.
- With the help of sex toys — the same vibrator. The vibrator can be operated by either the man or the woman herself. At first, a small device for clitoral stimulation is enough; at later stages, one can experiment with a clitoral vibrator combined with a phallus. The main thing is to set the toy aside in time so that the woman experiences orgasm during full intercourse.
