What is deep oral sex
The techniques of regular oral sex are based on touches with the mouth, tongue, and lips. In deep oral sex, the penis goes all the way into the mouth and fills the throat.
Not all couples practice this type of sex. One difficulty hinders the process — the gag reflex. Because of it, many feel that such tricks are better left for porn stars. But in reality, anyone can learn the techniques of deep oral sex. You just need to practice.
How to prepare for deep oral sex
Relax
First, it’s worth preparing yourself mentally. If you have any fears and concerns, try to get rid of them; otherwise, you won’t be able to relax and enjoy the sex.
Remember: if you don’t like it, you can always stop. Don’t be afraid to look awkward or do something wrong — it’s unlikely that anyone does everything perfectly on the first try.
Practice
You don’t have to practice directly on a man right away. Try using a dildo. Attach it to a table in a comfortable position and start. The more often you practice, the sooner you will be able to apply the skill with your partner.
Overcome the gag reflex
It occurs when the penis enters the throat. You will need time and training. The throat must get used to the feeling of fullness. Try the following:
- Take the dildo in your mouth and slowly move it toward your throat.
- When it touches the palate and the walls of the throat, the gag reflex will appear — spasms and coughing. Try to relax and suppress it without removing the dildo.
- Breathe through your nose and concentrate on relaxing your throat. Sometimes nausea will arise, ignore it.
- Wait at least 10 seconds while holding the dildo in your mouth. Do not try to move it yet.
- Repeat this exercise two to three times a day for a week. After that, you will feel that the gag reflex weakens and your throat is not as sensitive. Now you can move on — perform forward-backward movements with your mouth.
- This may intensify the gag reflex. But it’s very important to stay calm and continue. Choose a comfortable pace. Start slow, but over time — faster.
- After a few weeks, the gag reflex will decrease to the point where it will be easy for you to take the dildo into your throat. The spasms and coughing will go away.
Ensure safety
Without this, sex is unlikely to be comfortable. Before intercourse, do the following:
- Stock up on a water-based oral lubricant. Saliva may sometimes be insufficient as a lubricant, which can lead to discomfort during penetration.
- Don’t forget to put on a condom. Oral sex, although considered safer than vaginal or anal, also has its risks. Some sexually transmitted infections can be transmitted 4 Things You Didn’t Know About Oral Sex this way, such as HIV, herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, human papillomavirus, and viral hepatitis.
- Make sure your partner takes a shower. An unpleasant smell during oral sex can trigger gag reflexes. And you are unlikely to enjoy the process.
How to properly perform deep oral sex
You already know the basics: you need to act the same way as during training. But to enhance sensations, you can add several interesting techniques.
Technique 1
Take the penis in your hand at the base, seal your lips around the head. Move your mouth from side to side. Remember how you shake your head saying "no" — it looks the same. Continue while gradually moving the penis toward your throat.
Technique 2
Take the penis into your mouth, holding it at the base with your hand. Make a thrusting motion so that the penis goes in only halfway. Repeat several times. Then suddenly go down, taking the dildo all the way in. Continue, alternating thrusts.
Technique 3
Lower yourself from the head of the penis to its base, making circular movements as if spiraling, and return in the same way.
What positions are suitable for deep oral sex
Try all of them and choose the one that is most comfortable for you.
On your knees
A classic position for oral sex. The man stands, and the partner goes down on her knees. This option is convenient because you can look into each other's eyes, and you can also caress the scrotum with your hands. It’s a good idea to put a pillow or blanket under your knees to avoid bruises afterward.
This is a great position for the first deep oral sex: you don’t have to twist your body; your head is directly opposite your partner’s groin.
While sitting
The man sits on the bed or in a chair, leans back slightly, and spreads his legs. The partner positions herself on the floor between his legs. As in the previous position, the woman is on her knees. However, she can rest her hands or elbows on the bed.
While lying down
The partner lies on her back, slightly spreading her legs. The girl positions herself on her stomach so that her head is opposite the groin. In this position, her hands are free, allowing her to caress the man’s belly.
In this position, long hair may sometimes get in the way. It's better to tie it up.
Position 69
One of the most popular and convenient options, because both partners can stimulate each other.
On the side
This is a variation of position 69. Now the partners lie on their sides.
Pinned down
In this position, the man dominates: the woman lies on the bed, while the partner kneels opposite her face. In this case, he is the one who moves — it will be difficult for the girl to do so with her mouth. However, she can stimulate the belly, thighs, buttocks, and scrotum.
Jackhammer
The partner sits on the floor with her back to the man, while he positions himself above her. The woman’s head is slightly tilted back and is between his thighs. The partner sets the pace — he moves, slightly crouching and straightening his legs. At this time, the girl can not only take the penis into her mouth but also stimulate the scrotum and thighs.
