What is pegging
Pegging A Beginner’s Guide to Pegging — is a form of anal sex, where a woman plays the leading role: using a phallus (strap-on), she penetrates the man's anus. It sounds unusual, however, this sexual practice has been studied and widespread for a long time.
Sex columnist Dan Savage, who introduced the word "pegging" in 2001, explained the necessity of its creation this way. Supposedly, readers and listeners asked so often about this still unnamed form of sex that Dan needed a simple one-syllable term for a specific intimate game. Savage asked Savage Love. We Have a Winner! readers of his column to help with the term. By voting, in which more than 12,000 people participated, the term pegging was chosen — from the English word peg, meaning "stake," "rod."
Here are a few important things What You Need to Know Before You Try Pegging that you need to know about this somewhat unusual form of sex.
It is not a homosexual practice
In pegging, a man and a woman always participate, just like in traditional sex. So, this is definitely heterosexual contact, just with a change of roles.
It is a way to understand each other better
During pegging, a man and a woman set aside their usual gender roles and gain the opportunity to understand what the representatives of the opposite sex feel during sex.
A woman, trying on a "penis," can understand how sensitively and diligently her partner works in bed during regular intercourse. A man, in turn, realizes how dependent and vulnerable his partner feels while allowing a member inside her. This empathy allows for a closer and more sensual relationship.
It strengthens trust in the couple
People have strong stereotypes, including sexual ones. For many men, anal penetration is a completely forbidden zone, which can call their masculinity into question. If despite all this, a person is still ready to swap roles with a woman, even if only for the duration of the sex game, it means he fully trusts his partner.
It provides entirely new sexual experiences
The forbidden fruit excites much more than something traditional and therefore boring. So the orgasm that both partners may experience can be much more intense and powerful than usual.
For men, dizzying sensations are ensured by the stimulation of the prostate — this gland, located about 5 cm from the anus, is often called the male G-spot. For fairness, it should be noted that not all men are capable of experiencing a prostate orgasm. But, as they say, until you try, you won’t know.
For women, a strap-on secured to the hips provides a pleasant pressure A Beginner’s Guide to Pegging on the pubic mound or clitoris. Friction during thrusts can provoke a powerful clitoral orgasm.
How to practice pegging
Here are a few simple rules that will help turn this sex game into real pleasure.
1. Obtain your partner's consent
This is the basis of any sexual practices involving two people. Both partners must understand what they are signing up for. Moreover, it’s important that both sincerely want to experiment.
2. Choose the right toy
A strap-on is a phallus-shaped device that consists of strap-on panties and a phallus attachment. Such toys are available in a wide variety at sex shops. For the first time, choose a small model made of silicone or cyber skin with a firm and soft surface.
Ideally, the strap-on should be secured to the woman’s hips with wide leather straps that are adjusted with regular buckles: this is reliable and comfortable. Fabric fastenings with Velcro, although they look more comfortable, get stretched quite quickly and may shift during movements. A good option is a strap-on on latex panties. However, this will not work if you have a latex allergy or don’t want everything to sweat constantly.
Later, if you decide to improve your pegging skills, you can choose a more serious strap-on. For example, a harder one (made of hard plastic, ceramic, glass), with a vibrator, or a double-sided one that allows simultaneous stimulation of the prostate and vaginal walls.
What to buy
- Universal strap-on panties on adjustable straps from Bior toys, 603 rubles →
- Black strap-on panties Faster from Lola Toys, 1,620 rubles →
- Strap-on attachment from Dоc Johnson, 4,050 rubles →
- Strap-on with vaginal plug from Bior toys, 1,800 rubles →
- Harness with realistic phallus attachment from "Twilight of the Gods", 3,402 rubles →
- Double-sided purple strap-on from Pipedream, 4,077 rubles →
- Vibrating strap-on from Pipedream, 4,199 rubles →
3. Stock up on lubricant
Lubricant will be needed in large quantities. The reason is simple: the anal opening does not produce natural lubrication.
If you are unsure which lubricant to choose, pay attention to hybrid options based on silicone and water. They will provide the softest and safest glide.
What to buy
- Water-silicone based lubricant from System Jo, 1,431 rubles →
- Anal lubricant Exxtreme Glide from HOT Production, 1,260 rubles →
- Hybrid lubricant for anal sex Tom of Finland Hybrid Lube from XR Brands, 2,250 rubles →
- Water-silicone intimate lubricant Wet Elite from Wet International Inc., 1,242 rubles →
- Anal gel-lubricant BDSM from EROTICON, 405 rubles →
4. Remember hygiene
The strap-on must be thoroughly cleaned with warm water and soap before and after the game.
5. Pay special attention to foreplay
If you decide to try pegging, don’t rush to use the strap-on the very first time. It’s better if the man gradually gets used to the stimulation of the anus. Let it become an element of your usual sex: the partner caresses the anal area with a lubricated finger, exploring the entrance, gently and tenderly trying to locate the prostate, and then both achieve orgasm the classic way.
6. Choose the right position
These options work well for pegging.
Missionary
The woman with the strap-on is positioned on top. In this position, the partner can caress the man by pressing against him with her breasts.
Half-missionary
The man lies on his back with knees raised and spread, while the woman hovers above him. This is a position of complete trust, where the partner may feel the most power over the partner.
Spoon position
In this position, the woman can insert the strap-on while also stimulating the man's penis and testicles.
Doggy style
One of the most comfortable positions, in which the man finds it easier to relax. But you should only switch to it after you have already tried pegging and figured out how to move in order to deliver pleasure to each other.
Cowgirl
This is akin to the traditional cowgirl position, just with the man on top. The cowgirl position is best used if you already have successful joint experience in pegging.
7. Be as gentle as possible with each other
The strap-on, generously lubricated, should be inserted very slowly and gently, keeping an eye on the partner’s reaction and asking if he enjoys the process. Embracing, gentle kisses, and caressing each other’s genitals are also important at this moment and can play a role in achieving pleasure.
8. Agree on a safe word
Be prepared to stop the game at any moment, as soon as it begins to cause discomfort to one of the partners.
