1. When a partner runs away after orgasm
Sex is not a marathon and definitely not a one-way street. It’s clear that someone may finish first, but that's no reason to rush to say goodbye or fall asleep.
You can always take a break while continuing to caress your partner, and then rush back into the fray with renewed energy. Or bring things to an end in other ways.
Cutting off the process after getting yours is not only selfish but also rude.
2. When a partner dodges oral sex
There is no law that obliges us to put anything in our mouth. But there is an unwritten rule: in sex, you need to both take and give, and do so with joy.
If a partner does not want to perform oral sex because "those genitals are so disgusting," then they have no right to expect oral caresses themselves.
3. When a partner refuses to use protection
You believe he is a wonderful person. You know that it will be better without a condom. But getting sick or suddenly becoming a parent is not what you want at all. And any discussion on this topic gives rise to one desire — to point to the door.
4. When unwanted feelings arise
You can say as much as you want that "it’s just sex," but even the most ardent pragmatist will feel something like love in the moment after an orgasm. As a result, relationships intended as a pleasant pastime become complicated and painful. Annoying? Ridiculously so.
5. When a partner cannot laugh
The human body is capable of a multitude of ridiculous sounds and tricks. And there is nothing terrible about them. But if someone cannot handle such natural moments, that’s already unsettling.
The willingness to laugh together unites people, relaxes them, and encourages new experiments. After all, in bed, you frolic, misbehave, play, but do not try to uphold the title of the most serious person on the planet.
6. When a partner fakes an orgasm
First of all, no one believes in obviously fake orgasms like an opera diva on an electric chair. They create the impression that you are considered a simpleton who can be taken in by a cheap performance.
Secondly, skilled imitation will backfire in the future.
You may think of yourself as a sexual giant, but a new, more sincere partner can easily shatter the sweet illusion and shake your self-esteem.
7. When a partner does not care about hygiene
Being sweaty and smelly is acceptable during spontaneous sex after a workout. But not constantly. It's not that hard to clean up, especially if your body is about to be kissed by someone you kind of like.
8. When a partner repeats mistakes from porn
No, those positions are actually uncomfortable, no, people do not get aroused at the snap of a finger, no, saliva on the palm is not enough for successful penetration. Those who continue to believe in these myths from porn evoke a mix of irritation and bewilderment: did they only watch sex instead of actually engaging in it?
9. When a partner "accidentally" does what was not agreed upon
No one "accidentally" moves to anal sex or BDSM sessions. Some things need to be discussed beforehand. And there can be no excuses for this.
10. When a partner does not see or hear
A good lover tries to understand what you like. A bad one charges ahead regardless of your words and displeased expression.
Not everyone has experience and skill, but if a person is willing to learn and try, everything will work out. However, neglecting the desires of another can ruin the most romantic encounter.
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