Why you want to have sex in public places
It's incredibly exciting
The fear of being caught is the most powerful aphrodisiac. This fact has a physiological explanation.
If we look at the two main human instincts, survival and reproduction, arousal can be divided into two types. The first is arousal from danger, which triggers the "fight or flight" mechanism. The second is sexual arousal, which calls for sex. These are two sides of the same coin, and our brains do not always understand the difference Public Displays of Affection .
The two types of arousal sum up, and sex with the risk of being caught turns out to be more spectacular than ever.
It's a way to diversify relationships
Having sex exclusively in the bedroom is like doing it only in the missionary position or only on Thursdays. Sooner or later, monotony becomes boring, and couples look for ways to add some spice to their relationship.
In this regard, intimate pleasures in a car are not much different from sex on the kitchen table or, let's say, on the windowsill. The risk of being seen by a bystander only enhances the sensations.
It's perceived as a marker of personal freedom
Breaking rules, going beyond familiar categories, looking at the world from a new angle, not being afraid to be yourself, following your desires. What more do various personal growth coaches and trainers tell people?
However, it cannot be said that the thirst to break social taboos, including sexual ones, is a modern invention. Just remember the hippie era with their concept of free love, and you will stop being surprised by the tolerant attitude towards public sex.
It's one of the aspects of the new normality
We live in a deeply public world where exposing your experiences, fears, body, even intimate details to public scrutiny is fashionable. Don't believe it? Check out YouTube, popular Instagram blogs, or online dating sites.
The logic is simple. If I can demonstrate cellulitis to my followers, because it’s natural, or for example, advocate for women's right to walk topless along seaside promenades, then why should I hide my sex? It’s completely natural too.
Perhaps it's a part of human nature
For example, voyeurism — an interest in secretly watching strangers in their intimate moments. Scientists have not determined the reasons for this phenomenon but suggest Voyeuristic Disorder that this kind of curiosity is inherent in many and is generally considered a variant of the norm.
The same goes for public sex. In Spain, according to surveys, almost every second person has practiced sex in public places Share of Spaniards who had had a public sex experience as of August 2020, by gender . In the USA, various data suggest that dogging (the slang term for public sex) has been engaged in by at least 22% Public Displays of Affection to 57% POLL: American Sex Survey of adult citizens.
Perhaps it has to do with the fact that humanity as a species has lived in close quarters for millennia — in small caves where life, including sexual experiences, went on in full view of everyone. Civilization and the rules of decency it created have, of course, slightly adjusted this openness. But they haven't eliminated it completely.
What you need to know before having sex in a public place
The desire to engage in public sex can be normal. But that doesn’t mean that such intimacy is unequivocally permissible.
Here are some simple rules that will make your experience not only exciting but also safe.
1. Remember that it may be illegal
There is no direct prohibition on sex in public places in Russian law. However, if you are seen by passersby and reported to the police, you may be charged with petty hooliganism under article Administrative Code of the Russian Federation, article 20.1. Petty Hooliganism 20.1 of the Administrative Code for "disturbing public order, expressing clear disrespect for society."
The fine for such an offense is up to 1,000 rubles. But there is also the possibility of administrative arrest for up to 15 days.
Moreover, if you choose a blatantly inappropriate location for your activities, such as the area of a kindergarten, school, or if children happen to be among the random witnesseschildren, administrative liability may escalate into criminal liability for "engaging in lewd acts without the use of violence" under article Criminal Code of the Russian Federation, article 135. Lewd Acts 135 of the Criminal Code.
2. Thoughtfully choose a place for sex
According to the results of a small survey conducted The most arousing occasions by the British medical resource Zava, the most popular place for public sex is parks or forest areas — they were preferred by every fourth respondent. The top ten also includes car interiors, beaches, cinemas, fitting rooms in stores, and even locker rooms at swimming pools.
You can certainly choose your option. For example, an empty subway car or the restroom of a trendy restaurant.
The main thing is to keep the information from the previous point in mind. Try to make sure that you are not caught by people who could see your performance as a disruption of public order or, even worse, as lewdness.
3. Respect those around you
The rule of consent applies to sex in public places as well. Random passersby did not consent to witnessing your passionate displays. Treat their right not to see your intimate act with respect. In simple terms: definitely think about how to make public sex as discreet as possible.
4. Choose appropriate clothing
It should serve two functions. Firstly, it should be easy to remove (lift up, push aside). Secondly, when necessary, you should be able to instantly put it back on.
For girls, dresses, skirts, and long tunics work best. For men — elastic pants without belts, buttons, and zippers, shorts or trousers.
5. Take care of hygiene
You will definitely need dry and wet wipes. As well as a bag for putting lubricant (it’s not a fact that in a stressful situation, a girl will produce natural lubrication quickly) and condoms.
If you get too carried away during sex and leave wet traces, be sure to clean up after yourself. This is also a sign of respect for those around you.
