Who and why has sex with two girls
The composition of participants in such a threesome can be different: a couple of a man and a woman plus a guest woman, a couple of two women and a guest man, or three people who are not in a relationship with each other.
Now, the reasons for trying out lesbian sex are similar for everyone. People do it to:
- Realize their erotic fantasies.
- Get a vivid sexual experience that will be remembered for a long time.
- Better understand themselves and discover new aspects of pleasure.
- Feel what it's like when someone from the outside watches you have sex.
- Diversity their regular sex.
- Safely observe your partner's closeness with another person — if they are a couple.
How to find participants for lesbian sex
First, you need to decide whether you want to invite someone you already know to bed or someone totally new.
In the first case, you can invite someone from your friends or ex lovers. The plus of this option is that you won’t have to establish contact with a stranger, so the atmosphere will be more relaxed. However, it may turn out that the acquaintance is not inclined to erotic experiments. To avoid ruining the relationship, try to find out beforehand their attitude towards threesomes, and then suggest something. Also, if the sex itself goes poorly, you will hardly be able to communicate as casually as before. So, despite the apparent ease of this option, think twice before choosing it.
In the second case, it makes sense to use dating apps, thematic internet forums, or head to a sex party. Sometimes, at such meetings, threesomes happen spontaneously, but you can also find partners who are open to future experiments there.
What you need to know before starting sex with two girls
- All participants must like each other. If something is amiss, it’s better to look for someone else.
- A threesome is not suitable for couples who have problems in their relationship. It will only worsen the situation.
- Bed experiments are not a panacea for infidelity. Don’t think that after such sex, your husband or wife will not want intimacy alone with someone else.
- If you or your partner are jealous, then a threesome can provoke very negative emotions.
The only downside for me of threesome sex is that my man finds a new girl in bed more interesting than I am. I can understand it, but it’s still unpleasant.
- Girls who don't like the female body but want to try a trio should opt for sex with two men.
- Everything can go completely differently than you imagine. If you’re not ready for surprises, it’s probably best not to start anything like this.
How to prepare for lesbian sex to make it work
Get acquainted in advance
Open communication will help organize everything so that everyone gets maximum pleasure. It’s better to meet in advance, discuss the details, find out if everyone likes each other, what each is expecting and what they want to gain. If two of you are in a relationship, make sure that none of the partners view the experiment in bed as a potential threat, and the third participant as a competitor. Discuss whether, in case of success, you will maintain the relationship further or plan only one meeting.
Discuss boundaries of what is acceptable
Each participant should know what can and cannot be done, whether everyone is ready to use toys, which types of stimulation are desirable and which are not. Agree on the possibility to stop if someone feels uncomfortable.
It’s also worth deciding in advance whether to spend the night together or split up after sex and go home. The first time it’s better not to stay: you’ll likely feel awkward in the morning. If everything goes well, then in the next meeting you can spend more time together.
Choose a suitable place
Decide where the meeting will take place. It’s better to choose a neutral territory where all participants are equally comfortable. A good option is a rented apartment with a large bed and neighbors who are tolerant of noise. A hotel room will also work, but going there together may feel awkward. If you decide to have sex at someone’s home, remember that the invited guests may initially feel somewhat constrained.
Ensure safety
Be responsible: get tested and make sure you don’t have STIs.
Undoubtedly, it’s necessary to use condoms during sex. Additionally, disinfectant and lubricant may be needed at any moment. All of this should be at hand.
Create a conducive atmosphere
To rid yourselves of stiffness, pay attention to the ambiance. Create a romantic setting: play soft music, dim the lights. Some like flowers and candles, which can also be discussed in advance. The room should not be too hot or too cold. Prepare light snacks, refreshing drinks, and perhaps a bit of alcohol—but by no means overindulge in it.
The first time we were at the dacha, sat in the sauna, then drank a little wine, and everything else happened somehow on its own. I even asked the guys if we would regret this. We didn’t regret it!
What to do in bed to have successful sex with two girls
Don't rush
Your goal is not to finish as quickly as possible, but to enjoy yourself. Spend time on foreplay: it will help you relax. Gently caress each other, get to know your partners’ bodies, look at them. Find something that you particularly like, and give a tender compliment.
During sex, don’t chase after orgasm; listen to your feelings. If you’re tired, take a break, drink some water or champagne, and chat.
Be delicate
Be careful with jokes. Don’t ridicule anyone in the group, don’t make dubious comments about their bodies and behavior, even if something seems strange or unexpected. If you are a man, absolutely do not compare the women to each other. Otherwise, everything can end before it even starts.
Find suitable positions
Positions are better to think through in advance: they are not as obvious as in sex with just two people. For example, here’s a good option: the first girl lies on her back, the second performs oral sex while kneeling, while the man penetrates from behind.
You can find a few more positions for lesbian sex in a separate article.
Play as a team
It’s hard for one man to satisfy two women at the same time, so act together. A good option is when a couple of participants engages with the third, and then everyone switches. Even if only two are occupied in some position, hold the remaining participant’s hand, caress them, or at least maintain eye contact.
If you want to switch positions or try something new, feel free to suggest it. But don’t command. Others may accept your idea or decline it.
Do only what all three enjoy
Some girls are bisexual, but not all. Therefore, a man should not ask them to touch each other: if they want to, they will start without prompts. If the women are not ready for sex with each other, you can find another option for interaction. Gentle caresses to the back or arm and even just smiles will do.
Don't be afraid to stop
If something feels off, say so. Don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable or raises doubts. Remember: you have the right to stop at any moment, no matter how far you’ve gone.
Don’t forget about hygiene
When moving from one girl to another, the man should change condoms and disinfect his hands. Women should also use antibacterial agents if they touch each other or themselves.
How to behave after lesbian sex
Relax, chat about random topics. If you are a couple and invited a third person, help them call a taxi and see them off. Once alone, avoid discussing the person in a negative light, even if something was not to your liking. It’s better to exchange impressions about the process itself and the experience gained. A man should tell his girlfriend how much he loves and appreciates her. This way, she will feel that they are still a stable couple.
