What you need to know before engaging in sex with tied hands
- Start with the rule of "yes". It means that both participants in the upcoming game must clearly and unambiguously express their consent to engage in this type of sex. If at least one partner is against such experiments or doubts them significantly, it is advisable to abandon the idea.
- Discuss the rules and boundaries. Agree on who wants to be tied up and who will be the dominant one. Define what is acceptable and what is not. For example, you can inform each other in advance that oral or anal sex is off-limits in this case. Or prohibit spanking.
- Agree on a safe word. It’s not guaranteed that you will cover absolutely all situations in the previous point that may arise during real sex. You should have the option to interrupt the game if it becomes uncomfortable at any moment.
- Pick your inventory. A stiff woven rope is not suitable for the first time: it can hurt the delicate skin of the hands. Choose something soft. This could be a silk scarf, stockings twisted into a cord, fur handcuffs, or special elastic cuffs with Velcro from a sex shop.
- Choose your location. A carpet, sofa, soft beanbag chairs, or a bed with a solid wooden headboard will not be suitable. You will need to tie your partner to something at least. Classic beds with a sturdy metal frame are ideal for such games.
- Stock up on lubricant. This is generally universal advice, no matter what type of penetrative sex you plan to engage in. There is always a risk that a woman's vagina will not produce enough lubrication. To ensure enjoyment and avoid distractions, it’s important to have lubricant on hand.
What to buy
- Fur handcuffs from Shots Media, 1,000 rubles →
- Velcro handcuffs with carabiner attachments from “Twilight of the Gods”, 945 rubles →
- Silicone handcuffs without a key from A-Toys, 1,070 rubles →
- Natural leather handcuffs with electro-stimulation from Shots Media BV, 4,743 rubles →
- Exciting water-based lubricant from Lubry GmbH, 702 rubles →
- Set of arousing gel-lubricants from “BioMed”, 972 rubles →
- Coconut scented stimulating lubricant from System Jo, 1,891 rubles →
- Scent-free silicone-based lubricant from Swiss Navy, 2,090 rubles →
- Oil-based lubricant from Ёska, 1,440 rubles →
In what position to have sex with tied hands
Here are the most comfortable options. During the process, don’t forget to talk. Don’t be silent if you feel uncomfortable. Ask your partner about their sensations. This is important.
1. Missionary position
The most obvious and easy to execute option. The girl lies on her back, throwing her arms behind her head and spreading her legs. The partner ties her ankles and wrists to the bed frame.
In this position, you can either engage in classic vaginal sex or perform cunnilingus on your partner or pleasure her with toys. To enhance sensations, suggest the girl to blindfold her eyes.
Attention 8 bondage sex positions from simple to extreme ! When the hands are raised above the chest for a long time, this places extra strain on the heart: it has to pump blood more actively than usual. Therefore, don’t get carried away with such play for too long. And make sure that the restraints on the wrists are not too tight and do not compress the hands.
2. Cowgirl
This position is the opposite of the previous one. The man lies on his back, throwing his arms behind his head. The partner ties his wrists to the headboard or simply ties them together. Legs can be attached to the opposite side of the frame, or they can be asked to bend at the knees.
The girl sits on the partner on top. She fully controls the process, adjusting the pace, angle, and depth of penetration.
In this position, you can caress your partner by pressing against him with your breasts. The recommendation to blindfold is also relevant.
3. Frog
The girl lies face down, on her stomach, and stretches her arms in front of her. The man ties her wrists (it’s not necessary to attach them to the bed). Then he raises the partner’s hips, helping her to get on her knees and moving her tied wrists down — so that they are between her ankles. The girl’s shoulders remain on the bed.
Then the man enters from behind or caresses the partner with his tongue. It’s important to hold the girl by the hips to ensure the stability of the position.
4. Caught deer
The girl lies on her back and in this position raises her arms up while bending her legs at the knees, pulling them to her chest. The man ties the wrists and ankles together.
This position is good for both regular penetrative sex as well as experiments with toys or cunnilingus.
5. On a chair
The passive partner (girl or man — it's up to you to decide) sits on an armchair with armrests. Then the dominant one ties their hands and optionally ankles to the chair.
Then the active partner can caress the tied partner with their tongue. Or engage in regular sex. If the dominant is a girl, she sits on the man on top. If it’s the other way around, to penetrate, the partner will have to kneel before the girl (in this case, she should sit on the edge of the chair).
For safety, push the backrest against the wall. This will prevent you from tipping over if you get too carried away.
6. Bent over
This position is for the most flexible. The girl spreads her legs shoulder-width apart and bends over, lowering her arms down. The man ties her wrists to her ankles and enters from behind.
Standing can be either wide or narrow (when the feet are close together). In the second case, there will be more tightness in the vagina, which means both participants will experience more intense sensations. But which option to choose depends on the girl’s flexibility and the partners’ agreements.
