What is considered a normal duration
According to a survey of sexologists, vaginal sex usually lasts from three to seven minutes. An act lasting 1–2 minutes is considered "too short," while from 10 minutes to half an hour is regarded as "too long." The "desirable" duration is 7–13 minutes.
Most studies focus on the time it takes for a man to ejaculate during vaginal penetration. But this is not the only type of sexual intimacy, and the aforementioned figures do not include foreplay, touching, oral and anal sex, which in various combinations are necessary for both partners to achieve orgasm.
Therefore, the "normal" duration of sex for you depends on what exactly you understand by this process.
If we consider only vaginal penetration, then it's a few minutes. Although even in this case there are caveats, as this option can occur not only through the penis. And there is currently no data on the average and desirable duration of anal sex.
Moreover, the duration also depends on what you want to achieve. Some couples enjoy slow and sensual sex, while others prefer fast and intense. Additionally, these preferences can change depending on mood and circumstances. The main thing is to remember that the process should be pleasurable for both partners and not to chase any specific timeframe.
What factors influence the duration of sex
Both psychological factors—stress The Stress‑Sex Connection / Psychology Today , dissatisfaction with one's body C. Quinn-Nilas, L. Benson et al. The Relationship Between Body Image and Domains of Sexual Functioning Among Heterosexual, Emerging Adult Women / Sexual Medicine ,—and external circumstances can have an impact. For example, small children in the house. Additionally, significant physiological factors such as age and various sexual disorders greatly influence this.
As you get older, you may find that:
- you need more time to become aroused;
- you find it more difficult to achieve and maintain an erection;
- hormonal changes have led to vaginal dryness or decreased libido.
Sexual disorders include, for example, premature and delayed Delayed ejaculation. Etiology, diagnosis, treatment. Reproductive aspects of the problem / "Kremlin Medicine" ejaculation in men. In the first case, ejaculation occurs too quickly, while in the second, too much time passes or it is completely absent.
What to do if you want to speed up the process
Add sensations
- Masturbate, touching yourself in the places you love to stimulate the most.
- Use toys.
- Make circular movements with your hips.
- Ask your partner to spank you on the buttocks or do it yourself.
- Masturbate together. Looking at each other, you will likely finish faster.
Talk to your partner about your desires
This is useful in any case, as it helps you understand each other's needs and find suitable options for both. Knowing what turns each of you on, you can reach the peak of pleasure faster.
Look for positions that speed up orgasm
Maybe you need deeper penetration, more contact, or space for additional stimulation with hands. Experiment and find what works best for you.
What to do if you want to prolong the process
Use stop-start
This is a technique for delaying orgasm, during which any stimulation is temporarily stopped when you feel you are close to orgasm. After the sensation subsides, continue. By the way, this technique can also be used during masturbation.
Use squeezing
A method for men. When you feel that you are very close to orgasm, gently squeeze the area between the shaft and the head of the penis for a few seconds.
