The average length D. Veale, S. Miles et al. Am I normal? A systematic review and construction of nomograms for flaccid and erect penis length and circumference in up to 15 521 men / BJU International of the penis during erection — about 13 cm. The average depth P. B. Pendergrass, C. A. Reeves et al. The shape and dimensions of the human vagina as seen in three-dimensional vinyl polysiloxane casts / Gynecologic and Obstetric Investigation of the vagina from the entrance to the cervix — up to 15 cm.
With such sizes, the penis does not reach the cervix, the pressure on which can be painful. Therefore, the average man and woman do not experience discomfort during sex. But everything changes if the size of the male member exceeds the aforementioned conditional norm.
Even considering that the vaginal canal slightly elongates How Deep Is a Vagina? And 10 Other Things You Should Know / Healthline during arousal, a member longer than 17 cm can make sex painful for the partner.
Here are a few simple rules that will help avoid unpleasant sensations and derive only pleasure from intimacy.
1. Pay special attention to foreplay
Ideally, preliminary touches should be such that the girl experiences the first orgasm before the penis penetrates the vagina. Kiss, engage in petting, lick the partner's clitoris, suggest she masturbate or help her do it using sex toys.
The more aroused and relaxed the girl is, the easier penetration will be.
2. Don't skimp on lubricant
If the partner has a really large penis, natural lubrication will definitely be insufficient. Remember how hard it can be to put on a too-tight ring on a finger, and do everything to maximize the ease of sliding. That is, generously lubricate lubricant (preferably water-based) on the penis and vagina and regularly add a new portion.
What to buy
- Soft water-based lubricant (240 ml) from Wicked, 3,696 rubles →
- Water-based lubricant (29.5 ml) from Swiss Navy, 651 rubles →
- Water-based lubricant (100 ml) from Lubry GmbH, 683 rubles →
3. Take your time
Hot penetrative sex in an elevator or on a work desk in a rushed format is, unfortunately, not for you. Even with lubricant.
The partner will need time for the penetration of an unusually large member to be comfortable. If you act quickly and roughly, you may end up with vaginal tears. And that is painful. So much so that the girl will hardly want to repeat the unpleasant experience.
4. Use cock rings
Restrictive rings for the penis can be found in every adult toy store. This elastic thing is worn on the penis and prevents it from penetrating too deeply. The ring also has an important psychological function: the man does not have to constantly monitor the depth of penetration, which means he can relax.
Rings come in different varieties. Pay attention to those that have additional attachments for clitoral stimulation.
What to buy
- Erection vibrating ring from Pipedream, 956 rubles →
5. Breathe to relax
This advice is more for girls. If the partner is nervous and fears potential pain, her pelvic floor muscles tighten, making attempts to penetrate the vagina more difficult and painful. Deep breathing helps to calm down, relieve tension, and relax.
However, the man should also take a breath. At least to act more carefully and restrainedly.
6. Choose safe positions
That is, those where the man cannot penetrate too deeply or the woman has the opportunity to control the depth of penetration. These positions will work perfectly.
Rider
The partner lies on his back, and the partner “saddles” him from above. The plus of this position: with free hands, the man can caress the clitoris to increase the girl's arousal.
Spoon
Both lie on their sides, with the woman facing away from the man. This position is particularly good for slow sex.
Reverse spoon
One of the best positions for gentle, tender sex. Partners lie facing each other, so the man will immediately notice if his actions cause the girl pain and will stop. The partner, in turn, can find the perfect position by bending or straightening her legs.
From behind with legs together
The woman lies on her stomach with her legs straightened, and the man enters from above. In this position, the vaginal canal elongates — the more the partner closes and stretches her legs.
Crab
Both sit facing each other, with legs bent at the knees. Partners can lean on their outstretched arms or hug tightly. In this position, the man can see the girl's emotions and can quickly react if she starts to feel discomfort.
7. Agree on a safe word
Pain is something that cannot be tolerated in sex. So, agree on a conditional sign in advance that will cause you to immediately stop the intimate game.
As a rule, this sign is some short, easily pronounced word. For example, in BDSM, it is “red” — analogous to a traffic light signal. But you can agree on another option.
8. Master oral sex
Oral sex, when the partner has a large penis, also requires skill. The girl will have to use her hands to prevent the penis from penetrating too deeply. But this option can be a good solution if traditional intimacy, despite all the tricks, turns out to be painful.
